I am reading these replies, and some are laughing about spouses slamming doors and blasting gospel music while you sleep.
You are treating a fundamental lack of respect like comedy.
My wife knows my sleep is a non negotiable boundary.
Early in our marriage, my rest was disturbed exactly once.
I addressed it immediately, and it never happened again.
Today, if I am upstairs taking a nap and a child even tries to walk up the steps, she drags them back down.
I enforce the exact same protection for her when she rests.
The reality is most of you accept this chaos because you lack the spine to establish rules in your own home.
Peace in a marriage is not a coincidence. It is the direct result of unapologetic boundaries.
Set the standard early, or enjoy the noise.
Selah!