Author/psychotherapist/spiritual teacher, with a special emphasis on deep healing and awakening, and on finding freedom through intimacy with all that we are.
Evidence means nothing
to true believers
even if it proves they’re in
the grip of deceivers
unless they depart their trance
and take the floor
for a deeper dance
The tendency to dehumanize others infects just about all of us, however much we may keep it out of sight, tucked away deep in our shadow. Those we dehumanize are rendered sufficiently “other” to us so that we can justify treating them as less than human.
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What we won’t dance with, what we refuse to cultivate intimacy with, what we’re so ambitious to shed or transcend, is precisely the dance-partner we need — and need to approach — drawing forth from us the very aversion, tension, and pain that’s crying out for compassion.
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Making the ground of a relationship unnecessarily unstable — as when certain boundaries are overridden or trivialized in the name of “freedom” — keeps our relationship from being as deep and fulfilling as it could be.
Before we can embody a truer life, we need to be able to remain present and grounded not only in the presence of discomfort, unpleasantness, and opposition, but also in the presence of our reactivity and aversion to such challenges.
Even when overwhelming losses leave us rudderless, adrift in seemingly alien waters, unrestrained grief reminds us of what really matters, needing no translation, but only our permission to have its way with us.
Real safety in an intimate relationship doesn’t mean any sort of deadening, any kind of let’s-not-rock-the-boat pact — as is found in codependent bondage — but rather a shared space, a we-space, in which we have enough shared safety to let go of playing it safe.