Modern women spend countless hours building their beauty and bodies to maximize sex appeal and attraction, yet complain about being sexualized. Make it make sense.
My therapist dropped a gem: you can't spend your life avoiding heartbreak or bad things from happening. You have to condition yourself to have appropriate emotional responses but learn to keep moving forward.
In order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. Not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. You cannot grow if you keep pretending you're innocent in the story you've created.
Lmao what is funny is that here in Botswana if you're a foreigner and you own a spaza the locals will report you and you will lose everything. There's nothing xenophobic about reserving certain businesses for locals.