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@dilanesper True, but what are the X% doing right? You aren't going to hear that from the 100-X crowd. We need to hear more from the X%!

[Roheep @Roheep1]

@Brien_Jackson I'd add c) media tropes have moralized male sexual desire to make it always bad, ugly and dangerous

[Roheep @Roheep1]

@strategy_rpg @kenthecowboy_ And that's why I'm on this thread - "men need to learn to accept non-sexual touch" is gender war discourse, just like "men are pigs" and "all men are rapists". This is neither true nor conductive to either a healthy relationship or self-healing for DV/rape trauma victims.

[Roheep @Roheep1]

@strategy_rpg @kenthecowboy_ More than uncomfortable. In a sense I felt used, and had to put up with power plays around my desire. She's a victim, but didn't really work on the problem. The "gender war" discourse on social networks wasn't helping, because it is a comfortable excuse for denying the problem.

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@strategy_rpg @kenthecowboy_ What happened in mine wasn't exactly what was described, and it wasn't being done as an exercise to solve an acknowledged problem. It was ambivalent behavior towards turning me on and some kind of "vengeance-driven" power play.

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@strategy_rpg @kenthecowboy_ And that is only beneficial if the exercise isn't a dressed-up power play, in a sort of war of the genders to make men pay for feeling desire. In the case of OP it seems likely toxic.

[Roheep @Roheep1]

@strategy_rpg @kenthecowboy_ It makes sense for the traumatized partner to re-acquire feelings of safety around sex with that exercise. But it's an exercise aimed at improving, not a legitimate requirement from partner who isn't the therapist. 2/2

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@strategy_rpg @kenthecowboy_ I suspect it's maladjusted learned protective behavior: sex is, deep down, scary to me due to past trauma. I "tame" my fear by exposing myself to it, under conditions where I control everything. The answer for partner is to find one who doesn't have sex PTSD :(

[Roheep @Roheep1]

@kenthecowboy_ @strategy_rpg For having had this exact experience leading to a recent breakup, you're spot on. In my case: "I wasn't initiating cuddles because I was scared it might turn into a request for sex" yes, and? Why is that bad? Because my desires were a danger due to PTSD from assholes before.

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@antirez Is that not just a typical French company, where the system raises to the forefront basically the worst/least-able people based on schooling and social origin, instead of people who can deliver?

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@Eli_B_Again @1984FucksSake It definitely isn't immutable. It changes with stress (as you pointed out) and other things in life. I had a breakup because our libidos *became* mismatched over time.

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@Topiramatee Les constructeurs préconisent un remplacement périodique au temps/km donc ce n'est pas idiot à 7 ans. Je ne pense pas que ce soit un problème de femme, c'est juste qu'une voiture est hyper technique et les pratiques d'entretien variables selon les professionnels et propriétaires

[Roheep @Roheep1]

@AstridQuiTwitte J'adore le "sera informé", bah ouais, c'est le but de la déclaration...

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@Mon_Miel_be @madrede2ninos Condensateur de run même (il est en permanence dans le circuit pour créer le déphasage du second enroulement, il ne sert pas qu'au démarrage). C'est pour ça qu'il meurt si vite d'ailleurs.

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@lapislagoons @meadandjuniper I think he has a point. It shows difference of attachment styles, lack of true interest, or difference in being a sane human being. In all cases that is a likely dealbreaker, no point breaking off without having the tough conversation first however.

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@AntoninAtger Je parle (très) vite et je crois que le principal problème est un problème d'articulation. C'est parce que les mots sont mal articulés (et d'une certaine façon les abréviations sont liées à ça) qu'on a du mal à se faire comprendre. Très bonne idée donc.

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@beez_invest @L3G33K Même débat sur l'assurance-vie avec "rachat partiel en 72h" qui remplacerait le livret A : oui, quand ça marche, mais quand ça foire ça peut mettre 6 semaines (là encore, vécu personnel). Pour la disponibilité, rien de vaut un dépôt à vue.

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@beez_invest @L3G33K Je ne prétends pas le contraire, mais pour pratiquer cela très régulièrement, attention à "un CTO c'est comme un livret A", c'est tout à fait faux sur les délais et il faut prévoir une semaine pour être tranquille.

[Roheep @Roheep1]

@L3G33K @beez_invest Cela ne prend pas quelques secondes de récupérer les fonds : le règlement-livraison est à J+2 sur Euronext (suivi du délai de virement qui n'est pas toujours un instantané).