i'm instantly turned off by a man that has very negative opinions about women even if it doesn't apply to me. something very nasty and misogynistic about that spirit that never sat well with me.
I evaluate my behavior every night. I will literally be in the shower like "I didn't like how I responded to that today but tomorrow I will be better".
Society will tell you what to be insecure about and sell you back the solution. You *must* think critically and consciously to work against that initial programming because it can consume you.