Person 1: They should have responded more calmly.
Autistic Person (me) : You publicly shamed them, encouraged a dogpile, and kept escalating after they became overwhelmed.
Person 1: So?
Autistic Person (me): You cannot deliberately dysregulate someone and then use their dysregulation as evidence against them.
Being autistic is having people constantly think your explainations are excuses.
In my experience, I always thought that full transparency was a key part of communication. So, I'd both apologize and explain why I did something.
It almost always got misinterpreted as an excuse.
@MicahTRoss It's the lack of accountability that's the problem. Like, crashing out like that is not great, but can be understandable when emotions get control. But "you can't say anything about how badly I'm acting because reasons" eh...
AUTISTIC LOGIC: “You always have to be right.”
No, actually… Being wrong is completely fine. Refusing to accept that you’re wrong after someone shows you the evidence is where it starts getting embarrassing.
someone said "if you don't let people experience the consequences of their actions towards you, you will remain a safe place for their worst behavior" and I couldn't agree more.