How many weed smokers have had the accusation of Paranoia and, “Lay off the weed dude” only to later, often years later, find out their intuition was spot on and they’d been gaslit to epic proportions?
The fastest way to detach from someone you truly love is to let them do what they want so you can see what they would rather do. If they want to lose you, let them. If they choose someone else, let them.
The love of your life wouldn’t sleep peacefully knowing they’re the reason you’re crying. They wouldn’t ignore you for hours, then replace you like you meant nothing. Wake up.