You'll never know who you truly are until there is something to overcome. Some type of resistance. When you're met with adversity and then are still able to handle it, now you're on a path. Stay true.
You are allowed to get up one day and just decide to change who you are. Dress differently, speak up more, read more, travel more, workout more, love who you want to love, and do you ! We don't have to stay the way people see us out of the fear that they won't like us anymore.
cant stand when people say being nice gets you nowhere. It's not meant to do anything for you. Not everything is transactional. Be kind because you want to be.