RussellJStambaughPhD

Clinical psychologist and AASECT certified sex therapist in private practice.

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

My God this country sure did become GREAT under MAGA! Two impeachments, Presidential corruption, undermined national security, Putin's/Trump's War in Ukraine. And now, some of the most feeble lying about it ever.
This is the winning we are tired of.

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

Wow! Flat out lying? Blatant hypocrisy? Limply caving in to Trump's irrationality? After he arranged an attempt to overthrow valid election results?

These questions will have to be overcome if you ever hope to be Speaker. You look like a sheep, and a dishonest one at that!

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@IdleMiner The Goodmans will win because there are three of them!

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

Charles Moser was awarded the 2021 Race Bannon Advocacy Award @#motecon2021
Here's why:
https://t.co/xQr8cOK9e6

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@larryelder @seanhannity I already detect fraud in your response to the Gavin Newsome Recall. You are lying about fraud before the polls are closed and the votes counted! Looks like we dodged a bullet: you!
Really bad job, Larry!

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@Fah_Lo_Me Just on f'ing time!

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@DrSprankle True

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@skepchicks This is complete nonsense! It just proves you can say anything on Twitter.

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

Elephant in the Hot Tub: Kink in Context

New Post:. Kink and Healing

https://t.co/wHgQ4k4uSF

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

My blog on kink and psychotherapy:
https://t.co/WtPWDfwsfE
#letstickle

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@JoeNBC Geez, Rand, that was a really pitiful performance on This Week today!
50 certified state election results and your slinging nonsense about two sides to every fact?
That is our election process. The same one that elected you in prior years.
A democracy doesn't dispute 2+2=4.

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@LuluTheSexpert @TickleLife Indeed, one of the reasons folks in kinky life tend to have good communication and consent skills is that kink is so diverse and stigmatized. Not everyone likes the same things. In order to get to 'yes,' you have to be able to tolerate 'no'.
#letstickle

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@LuluTheSexpert @TickleLife But the greatest safety is in knowing and trusting your partner, and in being able to deal with either 'yes' or 'no'. Like you, your partner can't get turned on by just anything. So there is always risk that you can desire something they wouldn't enjoy.
#letstickle

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@LuluTheSexpert @TickleLife Often they share their interest as 'just' a fantasy, because they are ready to back away if they get an uncomfortable response. Kink fantasies are very common. About half to 75% have them. But often they reflect serious interests.
#letstickle

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

4. Cont. Because of stigma, your partner may feel ashamed about the activity. There really is no quick or easy way to build the trust to confront that shame. It takes time, patience, consistency and vulnerability.

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

#letstickle
4. How to ask for kink?
There is no surefire way to ask for kink, any more than there is a surefire way to ask for sex or anything else. You must face the possibility of disappointment. But you will succeed when you ask this way:

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

You must ask in a way that makes your partner(s) feel good about meeting your needs. If you know how to meet their needs well through the kitchen nk, they are likely to agree. That means you need to know those needs, and care about pleasing them.
#letstickle

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@TickleLife In kink, some people give up consent by agreement ahead of time. This is not a 'best' practice, but that is what they desire and negotiate. It carries greater risk. But communication, desire, and keeping your boundaries are key to defining how to do consent.
#letstickle

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@TickleLife There is not an airtight behavioral definition of consent. That is one of the reasons for safe words. If 'No!' no longer means stop, what does? You decide. When people can't speak, there are agreed upon safe signs, like dropping an object or crossing fingers.
#letstickle

[RussellJStambaughPhD @RussellPhD]

@TickleLife https://t.co/BFGvuOOkL6 provides a working definition of consent at this link: https://t.co/m2uRjf67l5 (Click on the blue title there to get the document). Consent is a process, so how you do these things is up to you and your partners.
#letstickle