An average South African 🇿🇦earning between R20k to R50k a month pays almost half of their salary to the government.
@sarstax Any explanation for this madness??
I told the guy I was seeing that before we slept together, I wanted both of us to get tested. HIV, hepatitis, syphilis, the full panel. Not because I didn’t like him. Not because I thought he was “dirty.” Just because I value my body and my peace of mind.
We’d been together almost a year. He kept saying he saw a future with me. That I was different. That he respected me.
So I said, “Okay. Then let’s both get tested. I’ll go with you.”
I thought that was mature. Responsible. Normal.
He went quiet.
Then he laughed a little and said, “So you don’t trust me?”
I told him it wasn’t about trust. It was about health. About being adults. About starting something intimate the right way.
He said getting tested “on principle” would mean admitting he’d done something wrong.
That’s when something shifted for me.
Because I wasn’t accusing him of anything. I was offering to do it together. Equal. Transparent. Safe.
Instead of reassurance, he gave me ego.
Instead of care, he gave me pride.
He said, “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t need proof.”
And I realized love isn’t supposed to ask you to risk your health to prove loyalty.
So I said, “If you really loved me, this wouldn’t threaten you.”
He didn’t budge.
So I did.
No more boyfriend.
Closure is something a lot of people wait for. Sometimes even without realising they’re waiting. They hold on hoping for a final conversation, an apology, a proper explanation, or just some kind of clarity that makes everything make sense. Because when someone walks away, or slowly disconnects, or suddenly switches up on you without any real communication, it can be confusing. And confusion delays healing more than anything else.
A therapist on IG said “You don’t chase them bc you love them. You chase them bc deep down, you’re still trying to prove to yourself that you’re worth staying for.”It’s not just about them. It’s about the part of you that still believes love has to be earned. Here’s why;
@tymebankza I managed to sort out the major issue I had! So I had to renew my card as it expired, now when I swipe it at Pick ‘n Pay as a smart shopper it says card invalid 🤷♀️ what do I do.