Charity No 1166712 Empowering adult survivors to transform their lives through the C.L.E.A.N.E.R Living programme - mindset, nutrition, fitness & de-stressing.
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Pls consider nominating us TODAY. Deadline is tomorrow 24.5.26.
Charity number 1166712
For the current Health & Wellbeing £5,000 draw, use:
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@SOB_Org
Thank you.
💙💥We did it… Breaking the Cycle™ is now CPD accredited 💥💙
This one feels big.
After years of building, refining, delivering and learning — our Breaking the Cycle™ programme is now officially CPD accredited.
Our 8 week programme is a trauma-informed growth based psychoeducational empowrment programme — designed to help people understand what has happened to them, how it has impacted their brain, body and behaviour… and how they can begin to rebuild.
Piece by piece.
This accreditation recognises:
✨ the structure of the programme
✨ the depth of the content
✨ the integration of research and lived experience
✨ the real impact we see every single week
But more than anything…
It recognises that survivors deserve understanding, not just survival.
I am incredibly proud of what has been created — and even more proud of every single person who has walked through this programme and done the work.
This is just the beginning.
💙 Rebuilding you piece by piece
💙 There is love, life and laughter after abuse
💙 Empowering futures
#BreakingTheCycle #CPD #SurvivorsOfAbuse #TraumaInformed #DoIt4Survivors
@SOB_Org
💥 We don’t just have missing data. We have systems that aren’t designed to recognise patterns even when the information is there💥
A new report from the @educationgovuk explores how child sexual abuse and exploitation is recorded within children’s social care:
https://t.co/R6Wtj0Vj8Q
It highlights something many professionals will recognise:
👉 Risk is often understood over time
👉 But systems are designed to record incidents at a point in time
So what happens?
👉 The data captures what fits the structure…
👉 But we’re still not seeing the pattern.
Now hold that alongside this:
👉 Only 1 in 8 children experiencing sexual abuse are known to authorities
So we are facing two realities at once:
🔹 The majority of children remain completely unseen
🔹 And even within the data we do have, patterns of harm are still being missed
Not because professionals aren’t recognising risk —
But because the system isn’t designed to capture how harm actually develops.
Because exploitation doesn’t arrive as a single incident.
It builds.
Through behaviour.
Through relationships.
Through context.
And that matters.
Because when patterns aren’t visible:
🔹 Risk becomes fragmented
🔹 Insight stays buried in case notes
🔹 Harm is absorbed into broader categories
🔹 Intervention happens later not earlier
👉 And that means opportunities to recognise and prevent harm earlier are missed.
This isn’t just about improving data.
👉 It’s about how decisions are made, how resources are allocated and ultimately, who gets seen.
If we want earlier intervention, we need systems that can recognise patterns not just record incidents.
This is something I explore in my paper:
“Child Sexual Abuse, Data and Structural Invisibility”
https://t.co/Axt3dfBPuu
Because this isn’t just about what is missing from the data…
👉 It’s about how systems, language and policy shape what becomes visible in the first place.
"What is not named is not measured. What is not measured is not funded. What is not funded is not prevented".
- Chris Tuck 2026
The report shows the system isn’t seeing the pattern.
My paper explains why because it was never designed to.
💙 There is love, life and laughter after abuse
💙 Rebuilding you piece by piece
💙 Empowering futures
As we approach our 10-Year Milestone & Impact Event, these are exactly the conversations we need to be having.
Because if we want better outcomes…we need better ways of seeing.
#ChildSexualAbuse
#ChildSexualExploitation
#Safeguarding
#SystemChange
#SurvivorVoice
#DataMatters
@SOB_Org
@CPDStandards
💙💥We did it… Breaking the Cycle™ is now CPD accredited 💥💙 with The CPD Standards Office.
This one feels big.
After years of building, refining, delivering and learning — our Breaking the Cycle™ programme is now officially CPD accredited.
Our 8 week programme is a trauma-informed growth based psychoeducational empowrment programme — designed to help people understand what has happened to them, how it has impacted their brain, body and behaviour… and how they can begin to rebuild.
Piece by piece.
This accreditation recognises:
✨ the structure of the programme
✨ the depth of the content
✨ the integration of research and lived experience
✨ the real impact we see every single week
But more than anything…
It recognises that survivors deserve understanding, not just survival.
I am incredibly proud of what has been created — and even more proud of every single person who has walked through this programme and done the work.
This is just the beginning.
💙 Rebuilding you piece by piece
💙 There is love, life and laughter after abuse
💙 Empowering futures
@SOB_Org
#BreakingTheCycle #CPD #SurvivorsOfAbuse #TraumaInformed #DoIt4Survivors
Fatima Whitbread MBE will be attending and saying a few words at our SoB 10th anniversary Milestone & Impact Event.
You can also catch Fatima and her amazing story on our Breaking the Cycle To Step Forward podcast
https://t.co/6qAiD8RvUa
@SOB_Org
I am hosting a complimentary Webinar this Weds 8.4.26 6.30pm to 7.45pm pls register if you would like to attend and share with anyone you feel may benefit from attending.
SOB - Survivors Of ABuse
https://t.co/oeNycIddPs
@SOB_Org
I am hosting a complimentary Webinar this Weds 15.4.26 7pm to 8.15pm pls register if you would like to attend and share with anyone you feel may benefit from attending.
SOB - Survivors Of ABuse
https://t.co/oeNycIddPs
@SOB_Org
Say hello to my 56th Birthday Present 🥳 a very special gift... Bella. 🐾
Bella came into our lives after losing Ruby in Feb 26.
What that loss brought up for me was not simply sadness. It was the reality of dysregulation.
Ruby had been part of my everyday sense of comfort, routine, connection and calm for 9 years.
Before Ruby there was Duffy and many other fabulous dogs.
When Ruby was gone, I felt the impact in a very real way. It affected how steady I felt, how I coped day to day, and reminded me just how much our nervous systems can be affected by loss, change and the absence of something that has helped us feel safe and regulated.
That experience has connected very personally to the work I do through Survivors Of aBuse @SOB_Org
Through the charity, we support survivors as they rebuild their lives after abuse. One of the things I understand deeply, both personally and professionally, is that healing is not just about talking. It is also about regulation, safety, trust, connection and finding ways to feel grounded again in both mind and body.
That is part of why Bella means so much.
She is not here to replace Ruby, because that is not how love works. But she has come into our lives at a time when comfort, connection, purpose and lightness have all really mattered.
In time, my hope is that Bella may also become part of the wider work of the charity. Right now, she is very much a puppy, learning, exploring, causing chaos and making us laugh. But longer term,
I hope she will grow into a calm and reassuring presence who can bring comfort, connection and moments of regulation to others too.
So yes, Bella was my 56th birthday present.
But she also represents something bigger.
The reality of what dysregulation feels like.
The importance of connection and comfort.
And the hope that healing can be supported in many different ways.
Welcome, Bella. 💙
#BellasBlog #SoBTherapyDog #SurvivorsOfaBuse #TraumaRecovery #HealingAfterAbuse #EmpoweringFutures
She has her own IG account @SoBTherapyDog do pls come and follow us.
Gemma Serpillo from Case Di Lusso Ltd
Paul Johnstone from Arrival Lifts Ltd
Running the TCS London Marathon #MyWay today for SOB - Survivors Of ABuse @SOB_Org
https://t.co/02Af3dT2J4
https://t.co/8MNkY245xO
Good luck Gem and Paul xx
All done 🙂
Video will follow next week!
Thank you Julie Baxter & Mick Ginn for helping me raise much needed funds for @SOB_Org - Survivors Of ABuse.
If you would like to sponsor us you can via
https://t.co/Eapcbyr7vZ
As part of the #DoIt4Survivors £75k Fundraising Campaign 3 of us undertook a Tandem SkyDive in Headcorn Maidstone.
If you would like to sponsor us you can via
https://t.co/Jd8LXcIx8l
If you would like to jump for us you can.....pls message me and I will arrange it with GoSkyDive.
You can jump from an airfield near you nationwide 🥰
Chris Tuck @SOB_Org
💙💥We did it… Breaking the Cycle™ is now CPD accredited 💥💙
This one feels big.
After years of building, refining, delivering and learning — our Breaking the Cycle™ programme is now officially CPD accredited.
We did it… Breaking the Cycle™ is now CPD accredited 💙
This one feels big.
After years of building, refining, delivering and learning — our Breaking the Cycle™ programme is now officially CPD accredited.
This is a trauma-informed psychoeducational programme — designed to help people understand what has happened to them, how it has impacted their brain, body and behaviour… and how they can begin to rebuild.
Piece by piece.
This accreditation recognises:
✨ the structure of the programme
✨ the depth of the content
✨ the integration of research and lived experience
✨ the real impact we see every single week
But more than anything…
It recognises that survivors deserve understanding, not just survival.
I am incredibly proud of what has been created — and even more proud of every single person who has walked through this programme and done the work.
This is just the beginning.
💙 Rebuilding you piece by piece
💙 There is love, life and laughter after abuse
💙 Empowering futures
#BreakingTheCycle #CPD #SurvivorsOfAbuse #TraumaInformed #DoIt4Survivors
@SOB_Org
💥Day 6 | Sexual Abuse & Sexual Violence Awareness Week💥
Understanding trauma, its impact and appropriate responses is essential.
But understanding alone is not enough.
Across the country, victims and survivors of sexual abuse struggle to access specialist, trauma-informed support — particularly support that recognises the long-term impact of childhood abuse.
Instead, many encounter:
*Short-term or crisis-only interventions
*Long waiting lists and postcode lotteries
*Services that are not trauma informed and attuned
*Over-reliance on screening tools and thresholds that miss complexity
Too often, survivors are expected to “recover” within systems that were never designed to meet their needs.
Trauma does not follow neat pathways.
Recovery does not fit into short funding cycles.
And childhood abuse does not end when someone turns 18.
If we are serious about safeguarding, recovery, and prevention, access to trauma-informed support must be consistent, specialist, and long-term — not exceptional.
This is not about awareness.
It is about infrastructure, commissioning, and political will.
#ItsNotOK #SASV
#TraumaInformed #SurvivorSupport
#ChildSexualAbuse #SexualViolence
#ACEs #MentalHealth
#Safeguarding #SystemChange
#ActOnIICSA #ImplementIICSARecommendations
@SOB_Org@IICSAVSCP
💥Day 7 | Sexual Abuse & Sexual Violence Awareness Week💥
Ten years ago, Sexual Abuse & Sexual Violence Awareness Week was launched to shine a light on abuse that had been hidden, minimised, and ignored.
Ten years on, awareness has grown.
But awareness alone has never been enough.
Too often, institutions still prioritise reputation over child protection.
Survivors continue to face barriers to trauma-informed support, justice & redress.
And recommendations designed to prevent abuse and improve responses remain unimplemented.
Sexual abuse is not a historical problem. It is a present one.
If this week is to mean anything, it must move beyond reflection and into accountability and action.
That means:
*Implementing existing recommendations
*Embedding survivor-led, trauma-informed practice
*Designing systems around reality, not convenience
Survivors have waited long enough.
@SOB_Org@IICSAVSCP
#ItsNotOK #SASV
#SexualAbuseAwareness #SexualViolence
#VAWG #ViolenceAgainstWomenAndGirls
#Safeguarding #Accountability
#TraumaInformed #SurvivorLed
#ActOnIICSA #ImplementIICSARecommendations
💥Sexual Abuse & Sexual Violence Awareness Week — What Comes Next💥
Over the past week, I’ve shared a series of posts as part of #SASV Week.
They were intentionally structured — not as isolated awareness messages, but as a connected narrative reflecting how abuse actually happens, how it is experienced, and where systems continue to fall short.
Here’s what we focused on, and why:
💥Day 1 – Why this week exists
We marked the origins of SASV Week and its 10-year anniversary. This work exists because abuse was historically hidden, minimised, and ignored — and because survivors and allies refused to accept that.
💥Day 2 – Abuse is complex
We challenged the idea that abuse is simple or isolated. It is often multi-layered, relational, and rooted in trust, access, and opportunity — which is why victim-blaming narratives are so harmful.
💥Day 3 – Why most abuse remains unseen
We explored the reality that most child sexual abuse is never known to authorities, and the limitations of relying on reported cases as a proxy for prevalence — particularly within VAWG frameworks.
💥Day 4 – Children are never responsible
We were unequivocal: children do not ask for abuse, invite it, or deserve it. Responsibility always lies with the person who causes harm — and with systems that fail to protect.
💥Day 5 – Trauma is a normal response
We reframed trauma responses not as weakness or pathology, but as understandable adaptations to overwhelming experiences.
💥Day 6 – Access to support is a systems issue
We named the reality that specialist, trauma-informed support remains inconsistent and inaccessible — a failure of infrastructure, not individuals.
💥Day 7 – Awareness must lead to action
We closed by returning to accountability. Ten years on, knowledge exists. Recommendations exist. Survivors exist. The question is not what do we know, but what are we prepared to do differently now?
What still needs to be done
Awareness weeks matter — but change happens in what follows.
That includes:
*Meaningful engagement with national consultations on child protection and safeguarding
*Implementing existing recommendations, not revisiting them indefinitely
*Embedding survivor-led, trauma-informed practice across systems
Investing in long-term recovery, not just crisis response
This work is ongoing, often uncomfortable, and rarely neat — but it is necessary.
@IICSAVSCP@SOB_Org
#ItsNotOK #SASV
#SexualAbuseAwareness #SexualViolence
#VAWG #ViolenceAgainstWomenAndGirls
#TraumaInformed #SurvivorLed
#Safeguarding #SystemChange
#ActOnIICSA #ImplementIICSARecommendations
"Empowering Futures"
#DayInTheLifeOfASmallCharityCEO
This is part of a longer video that explores the following:
*Gov & Local Gov / Councils
*Funding
*Services
*3rd Sector / Voluntary sector language
https://t.co/CwNRvDmBrH
If you want to help & support SoB you can email me [email protected]
or donate here https://t.co/Jd8LXcIx8l
Thank you 🙏
@SOB_Org
We often talk about trauma psychologically.
Thoughts. Emotions. Behaviour.
But chronic stress is physiological.
Prolonged activation of adrenaline and cortisol does not just affect mood — it can influence breathing mechanics, muscular tone and physical holding patterns.
Over time, the body adapts:
*Shoulders may round. *Breathing may shorten. *Muscles may remain braced.
These are not aesthetic issues. They are adaptive survival responses.
In Week 4 of our trademarked C.L.E.A.N.E.R.™ Living Therapy Programme (currently undergoing CPD accreditation review), we explore how stress chemistry can translate into embodied pattern — and how awareness can support regulation.
When individuals understand that their physical responses developed to survive prolonged threat, shame reduces.
And when shame reduces, agency increases.
This is not about “standing up straight.”
It is about teaching the body that it is safe to open.
If trauma-informed practice focuses only on cognition and narrative, it risks overlooking a core regulatory mechanism.
The body is not separate from trauma recovery. It is central to it.
#TraumaInformedPractice #SomaticAwareness #CPD #CSA #ChildProtection
@SOB_Org
TONIGHT ✨ Free Evening Webinar | Wednesday 28 January | 7.00–8.15pm ✨
ACEs-informed practice: what’s missing?
We talk a lot about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) in safeguarding, health, education, policing and social care.
But most training focuses on:
✔️ definitions
✔️ checklists
✔️ scores
It rarely explores what ACEs feel like from the inside — or how children actually experience harm, neglect, grooming, and missed opportunities for protection.
And that gap matters.
This free webinar is for professionals and individuals who want to deepen their understanding of ACEs beyond theory and understand why systems so often fail to see what’s right in front of them.
What we’ll explore:
• how ACEs cluster and compound in real life
• why children don’t disclose the way systems expect
• how neglect creates vulnerability long before abuse is visible
• what safeguarding looks like from the inside out, not the outside in
The session is grounded in lived experience and draws on Through the Eyes of a Child — a survivor-led account written before ACEs became professional language, and before hindsight and theory were layered on top.
This is not a personal disclosure session.
It’s a professional learning space designed to improve practice, curiosity, and judgement.
👥 Who it’s for:
Safeguarding, health, education, policing, social care, probation, youth justice, professional trainers — and those who commission or design services.
🕖 Date: Wednesday 28 January
🕖 Time: 7.00–8.15pm (UK)
💻 Format: Online | Free
https://t.co/daSNtRhMQ0
#ACES #Trauma #LivedExperience
@SOB_Org