the neurodivergent obsession with trying to figure out why someone did what they did. replaying it. analyzing it. asking your friends. asking your therapist. asking your friends again. because your brain literally cannot accept that some people are just cruel for no reason.
normalize saying “unfortunately you’re no longer a safe person for me and I refuse to continually sacrifice my nervous system to make you feel comfortable”
I keep on revisiting this. You might not realize the depth of what he said. In urdu poetry, there is a concept where poets view God as a lonely being, so lonely that He created free willed humans for company. Loneliness is a Godly trait & whoever enters its realm meets God there
I’m convinced Scorpios need a Morticia and Gomez type of relationship otherwise it ain’t the love that the Scorpio needs. Especially Venus Moon and Rising placements
Women who actually believe they are beautiful do not give people access to them contrary to popular belief.
The whole ‘I’m hot so I got to act like it’ mentality is low self esteem, which is what a lot of people who can’t believe they are attractive do.
An Arabic proverb says; “Keep your house clean like you're expecting guests.Keep your heart clean like you're expecting death.” This hits deep, a reminder we often forget.
you lose your libido, you don’t like their natural scent, you can’t fall asleep easily next to them, you experience digestive issues because of the tension/ anxiety you hold in your gut, you feel drained after interacting, you feel relieved when they leave, you get skin issues
People are getting mad at Zayn for saying he was never in love with Gigi (the mother of his child) and sure, that’s wild.
But they’re missing the real lesson here.
He said: “If I had been in love, I would’ve been a better version of myself.”
That’s the entire point, imo.
When a man truly loves you, he doesn’t stagnate. He will upgrade, regulate, become disciplined, idk do whatever is required to fix what’s broken without you having to beg/ask/try.
In my opinion (and Zayn’s words confirm this) love makes a man aspire. It sharpens him, makes him want to build, protect, provide, evolve because he wants to be worthy of the life you’re building together.
You cannot “fix” a man. You shouldn’t. Guy who loves you will fix himself. It’s what they do.
And if he isn’t becoming better with you, he simply isn’t in love.
Lesson in there ✌🏻