the reason why a lot of women are single nowadays is not because they can't find someone or because they're unlucky
it is because they want 80s and 90s love in 2026 while living in a world and making choices that make that kind of love almost impossible. back then, women invested in their men and their relationships but now, women just scroll through endless options like they are shopping and call it dating.
social media has convinced women to compare every relationship to lifestyles they see on a screen and that's where everything falls apart. fantasy has become more attractive than reality, patience has been replaced by instant gratification & now women want chemistry without commitment, attention without submission and perfection without sacrifice. loyalty gets overlooked cos someone else is always one swipe away. consistency feels ordinary, effort feels exhausting and the moment a relationship becomes difficult, many people start looking for the next distraction instead of fixing what's in front of them.
look, love didn't disappear, the ability to stay loyal, communicate, be patient, make sacrifices and choose the same person every day is becoming rarer. everyone wants a relationship that lasts but far fewer people are willing to become the kind of partner who can build one.
You can hide. You can disappear. You can ignore every message and convince yourself that silence is enough.
But I bet you can't stand in front of me, look me in the eyes, and tell me you hate me. Tell me to leave you alone. Say it where I can see it in your face.
Until that day comes, your silence isn't closure... it's avoidance.
you can't love someone out of their fear of closeness. But you can stop losing yourself in the process.
❗The only tools that actually helped me navigate this to hold my ground, to stop the anxious spiral, to finally feel sane again while dealing with hot-and-cold behavior.
Breakups in your 30s hit differently. It's not the same as heartbreak at 21. At 21, you cry, vent to friends, go out, distract yourself, and somehow you heal. Back then, life felt long, full of possibilities, what ifs, and( second chances). But in your late 20s or as you approach your 30s, it feels different. You are not only losing a person. You are losing plans, routines, and the version of yourself that was building a future with them.
I’m always ready to end it all to get over the pain it’s so bad. But now I take a second, a touch even. Can’t be making permanent decisions during temporary moments 🫠
Threatening to break up
Silent treatment
Blocking and deleting texts
Moving from 0 - 100 real quick
All traits of someone with disorganized attachment style.. Everything they’re doing isn’t about you, it’s in a bid to regulate their nervous system cos they’re triggered.
Because communication feels like vulnerability, cos there’s a chance of rejection, they avoid it. Instead they do all these funny gimmicks to gain back control of their nervous system. It’s pathetic and trust me, you can’t change such a person
Threatening to break up
Silent treatment
Blocking and deleting texts
Moving from 0 - 100 real quick
All traits of someone with disorganized attachment style.. Everything they’re doing isn’t about you, it’s in a bid to regulate their nervous system cos they’re triggered.
Because communication feels like vulnerability, cos there’s a chance of rejection, they avoid it. Instead they do all these funny gimmicks to gain back control of their nervous system. It’s pathetic and trust me, you can’t change such a person
It's so selfish to enter someone's life, see that they're a loving, cheerful, and good person, and decide to ruin their peace because you haven't dealt with your own issues. Leave people alone if you have no intention of showing up with sincerity.
One of the few things! love about being neurodivergent is my pattern recognition is insanely good you cannot gaslight or manipulate me. every micro expression you think I didn't notice. I did