Some kind things dey eh, it’s always nice watching if it’s not someone close to you. Cos as a stranger, I go gas you up like mad! But as my babe, you better respect yourself.
You get employed in a Nigerian company, they tell you, "we address each other on a first name basis."
You look around and what you mostly see are "elders" in their late 40s and 50s.
Disobey that policy with your full chest o.
@SirJarus U are an expert in tax law and policies...In the event a tax policies doesn't seem correct/valid enough to u..do u comply with the policy or u use ur personal discretion?
Mr Tony doesn’t know what he has caused. He has enabled a lot of managers, the damage that simple preference would cause in UBA would be very colossal.
After introspecting, this is what I’m currently thinking.
1. It’s a graduate of people the company has been training, and addressing people by their first name is allegedly a company’s policy so why ask for preferential treatment?
2. If you can demand for it, other leaders to can demand for it. The pressure would be on the juniors to now master discretion or discernment outside of their actual JD to excel as a UBA Staff.
My career path is currently in Governance, Risk and Compliance (GRC), and as an Associate, policies and SOPs are the bedrock of my work. So, it honestly amuses me seeing people casually talk about disobeying policies.
On August 13, 2017, I bet on Cristiano Ronaldo to score against Barcelona. It was the final selection on my ticket, with a potential win of ₦450,000. My school fees portal was closing the next day.
In the 80th minute, Ronaldo scored the second goal by putting Piqué on the floor. That man kept me in school.
That is the same man you all want to disrespect.
Okocha, bomb dey your head 😭
The Tony Elumelu First-Name Debate
I have been following the conversation around the young lady who called Tony Elumelu by his first name, and honestly, I think a lot of us are looking at the issue purely from a social and cultural standpoint, when there is actually an interesting workplace policy question underneath it.
Let me explain where I stand.
If a company’s policy says employees should address one another by their first names, and that policy does not specifically exclude the Chairman, CEO, directors, executives, or any other level of the organisational hierarchy, then technically, I don’t think the girl was wrong for calling him “Tony.”
Simple.
If that is the policy, then that is the policy.
The question I would actually ask is:
Does the policy recognize cultural context?
Was there a provision saying,
“Employees may address one another by their first names, except members of the board, the Chairman, CEO or certain senior executives”?
If there wasn’t, then we have to be careful about creating an exception after the fact simply because the person involved is Tony Elumelu.
However, this is where I think the girl could also have exercised some workplace wisdom and contextual judgment. Because the reality is that not everything that governs workplace behaviour is written in the employee handbook.
There are formal rules, and then there are informal organizational norms.
Personally, my position has always been:
Don’t address people by their first name unless the organization’s policy or culture clearly gives you the basis to do so. If there is any ambiguity, I would rather err on the side of professionalism and respect.
So, would I have called him “Tony” in that situation?
NO.
I would have said “Chairman.”
Not necessarily because I believe the girl violated any policy, but because wisdom at work is not always about proving that you are technically right. Sometimes, it is about understanding the room.
And this is where the African context becomes important.
Tony reacted, in my opinion, as an African man.
Again, I’m not saying that to justify the reaction or excuse anyone’s behaviour.
I’m saying it because our understanding of hierarchy, age, status, titles and respect is deeply influenced by our culture.
You can create a modern corporate environment where everyone is encouraged to use first names, but that doesn’t automatically erase decades of cultural conditioning around how we address people who occupy certain positions.
That is why I think both sides of this conversation can actually have a point.
From a policy perspective: if there was no exception, the girl may have been completely within the rules.
From a cultural and contextual perspective: calling him “Chairman” would probably have been the wiser move.