Commander Hodl

Came for the macro, stayed for the peaceful monetary revolution. Independent. 🇺🇦

[roobz 🌙 🌸 @tishray]

Love has a strange way of forcing you to confront yourself.

The longer you're with someone, the harder it becomes to maintain the illusion that all of your problems exist outside of you.

Eventually, your pride and insecurities enter the relationship. The habits you've spent years justifying suddenly have another person on the receiving end of them.

That is why every long-term relationship eventually becomes a mirror. Over time, it reveals the parts of ourselves we would rather not see.

The question is whether we love our ego enough to defend those flaws, or whether we love the other person enough to confront them.

[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@delonperc You don’t. Low chance they will try to fix themselves on their own timeline IF they ever achieve some self awareness.

[The Mutual Man @themutualman]

Defensiveness often signals that something meaningful was touched. When people feel challenged, exposed, or confronted with uncomfortable truths, they may react by protecting themselves instead of reflecting. Defensiveness doesn’t always mean you’re wrong. Sometimes it means there’s impact where awareness hasn’t caught up yet.

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[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@aFeliciaWorld @nuel_szy Yup

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@heavensbvnny Women do this too. Actually, it’s an avoidant thing.

[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@jumaf3 I threatened to leave and I did when my ex refused to take accountability or show any empathy for ghosting our date day. So it’s not always a bluff.

[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@the_ceo99 “If that’s your reaction to that day this relationship will never succeed.”

[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@AdamLaneSmith Not sure about this. Wouldn’t that be the anxious avoidant trap?

[Murray Hill Guy @MurrayHillGuy1]

Gents, tell her you like her.
Ladies, tell him he’s doing a good job.

Send the double text.
Tell them how you feel.
Stop trying to “win” the imaginary dating game by acting cold.

You know what’s attractive in 2026?
Being direct.
Being intentional.
Actually giving a fuck about someone.

It’s summer. Go all in

[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@Getinwithgame Or they’re avoidant

[Chloe Roma @The_RomaArmy]

“I want a husband.”

No, you want the aesthetic of being chosen. You want the ring, the photos, the title, and the soft-launch captions.

You don’t want to forgive when you’re angry, communicating when you’re hurt, apologizing when you’re wrong, serving when it’s inconvenient, and staying accountable when your ego wants to win.

You don’t want a husband.
Half of yall aren’t ready to be a wife.

[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@Getinwithgame Sounds like we’re specifically talking about insecure women here.

[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@Hombrelmparable Excellent thread. Ran into this myself with a an avoidant who couldn’t handle accountability

[Hombre Imparable @Hombrelmparable]

Me han engañado dos veces.

Una vez a los 21.
Una vez a los 24.

Ahora tengo 31.

Y puedo decirte exactamente qué tenían en común ambas mujeres.

No era lo que pensé durante mucho tiempo:

[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@GreenTextRepost @ShadyIndividu4l Anon is an avoidant. Doesn’t realize it though, of course.

[Illimitable Man (IM) @SovereignIM]

A woman who truly knows how to love will obsess over how you feel, whilst a woman who doesn't, will obsess over how she feels to the point your feelings are irrelevant to her.

Such a woman will seem emotionally unintelligent in her lack of empathy for you, because you are a tool to her, rather than a soul to her, and thus rather than humanise you as a man, she instrumentalises you.

The selfish woman thus centres her pain where the true lover centres yours, because a woman who truly loves you tries to see you and serve you, she doesn't just obsess over how you fail to see her, and demand you see and serve better.

This does not mean everything must be primarily about you, but it does mean it is actually about you some of the time, and not solely about her and her needs all the time.

This is why if she's always got you having conversations about what you did wrong and how you made her feel, if say she's always holding you emotionally accountable for some perceived or manufactured slight, whilst never showing any type of remorse or awareness for how she may have hurt you - if the the empathy is always focused on her but never focused on you, and if she would never do *for you* what she demands *from you* - she isn't actually able to love you, because her character is too rotten to do so.

This dynamic may be normal to you, and you may think this is how women are in general, that they demand they are always centred without ever centring you, but I assure you, this aberrant but otherwise normalised lack of mutuality is deeply wrong.

There are better, sweeter and more appreciative women who are more deserving and will treat you better, and it is down to you as a man to ensure only they get your commitment, not the self-indulgent, ungrateful and unempathetic forever complainer.

[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@cruisechannel23 @alfkkifine Can be something an avoidant person will do

[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@yowot_ Um yeah avoidants do behave like this lol

[Commander Hodl @SamJaco03101247]

@popularknapsack And the stupid prize 🏆?

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@KILLTOPARTY @RightWTmrw Doesn’t explain the inability to cum from a BJ.