So, a lot of you are miserable because you won’t make a basic effort to be socially presentable. You think it’s beneath you to engage in small talk or show interest in the lives of others. Your refusal to be kind and attentive is a moral failing, and it will keep you lonely.
maturing is realizing none of us are easy to be with. It's about who's willing to stay committed to understanding you and actually wants to grow with you
I say this to my kids all the time. Do it for the plot. Do it for the story. Tell yourself if it all goes wrong it will just be a funny story. Ironically job interviews, dates, and public speaking go better anyway if you're just happy to be there and not overthinking it!!
FUNMAXXING
You never learned how to live. Nothing is serious. Talk to people. You can do anything. Tomorrow doesn’t exist. Don’t overthink. Just do it. Create things because why not. Seek novelty. Pursue eternal joy. Play for fun. Give yourself more credit. Be an example of what life can look like.
If you understood the absurdity of everything, your worries would fade, and you would come closer to achieving peace.
Balance is key.
You must learn how to make progress while still making time for fun.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
can I say it's also why so many people are like "youre 30 and still on stan twitter" as if it's a bad thing to still have interests and online friends and shows and actors to look forward to but it's because the common is to lose yourself and become a boring adult
There is a lot of luck invovled with finding a spouse, particularly one worthy of having children with, so I side-eye pretty much all comments looking down on those who haven't settled down. It's arrogant and shows a lack of self-awareness.
[looking at people younger than me] you have your whole life ahead of you, [looking at people older than me] you have your whole life ahead of you, [looking at myself] it's over.
بيقولك مرة عيل عنده 10 سنين قاعد بيمارس هوايته المفضلة إللي هي مشاهدة الأفلام في التليفزيون لقى فيلم بطولة عادل إمام وعبد المنعم مدبولي فرح وقال لنفسه فيلم جديد مشفتهوش هتفرج عليه وأقعد اضحك
وأخد أكبر صدمة في حياته
This is why learning good decision-making at a young age is so important. People think your early 20s don't matter that much, but they shape the trajectory of your life in ways people underestimate. And certain decisions only get harder to walk back later in life. Even if you do eventually redeem your mistakes, it would be naive to think that they don't leave a mark.
Some day you will wake up inside the life you created. You need to make sure it's a good one.
Major cheat code for life: Be fully where your feet are. When you're at work, work. When you're with family, be with family. When you're resting, rest. Most people are physically present and mentally everywhere else.
One thing about adulthood that way too many people learn way too late (and have no choice but to learn the hard way): you have to be deliberate/proactive about everything. For the first time in your life, you can't be passive participant in anything.
Doing this is what genuinely shifted my confidence and self concept. I woke up one day and got tired of feeling insecure and being a victim to my own mental prison. I realized it was all just coming from me. And i realized if I created it, it means I can change it too.