Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern, or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. And eventually, the bill comes due.
Dating/Marriage tip I’ve learned from observation: Find someone who’s so good for your nervous system, that you can allocate your cortisol for other things - such as pursuing career milestones, financial goals, child rearing/ newborn trenches - instead of fighting for the relationship’s survival. That’s all for my very short TED talk.
Do you know why these signs are put up every 200 meters along the road? This is in case you need help, then you can explain to the Emergency Services exactly where you are.
The N3 is the highway you are driving on.
The -6 is a "section" of the road.
25.6 is the amount of kilometers you have traveled from the previous town.
N is the direction (north)....
Be safe this holiday season.
The real problem is, most of us were raised by parents who were just surviving so they taught us survival, not life. No one sat us down to explain how debt works, how to self soothe, how to say 'no' without guilt, or how to walk away from love that hurts. We weren't shown what emotional safety looks like, we were just told to keep the peace, suppress the feelings and work harder. Now we're adults paying bills on autopilot, spiraling in relationships, mistaking burnout for success and calling anxiety our personality. Lost, overwhelmed and wondering why we feel broken when in reality, we were just never taught the basics of being whole.
Even in friendships mind your business. If they don’t tell you, they probably don’t want you to know, or just not yet. You are not entitled to knowing what’s going on at every point in your friend’s life.