A man who is genuinely in love with you cannot be at peace while you are falling apart. That’s the clearest test. If he was the source of your pain, watched it consume you, saw the weight of it on your face, and still went to bed unbothered… he was never your safe place.
You cannot repair a relationship with someone who hurts you, blames your reaction, and still expects you to stay quiet about it. That’s not love, that’s manipulation.