maybe it'll help someone out there but the best lesson I learned in my 20s was to surround myself with great friends who weren't afraid of confrontation & being upfront with how they felt and open-minded in those hard conversations. dealing with indirect people who refuse to address problems directly and yet still talk about the issue behind your back to others will be a big source of anxiety & the pit in your stomach regarding friendships. there's a lot of wonderful people out there, but you absolutely do have to look ✨
once had someone tell me the reason he freaked out and yelled at me regularly when anxious was “if I did this to anyone else they would leave me” and when I left him I reminded him that he said this and that he was wrong
I used to have a friend (no ADHD) who would often leave me waiting at coffeeshops for over an hour. When I told her that was hurtful and wasted my time, she said that she was late because she felt comfortable with me and it was a sign of friendship. We are no longer friends.