"bottoming as punishment" discourse is so stupid to me, have you considered just that its funny??? its funny to have a guy that's annoying and asshole end up whimpering and trembling under you mercy ok. It is also hot
it's not a "rape kink." ppl do not engage in CnC cuz they think rape is sexy and want it to happen. It's about being able to have control over a situation many fear that otherwise would be horrifying and traumatizing.
Tuca and Bertie does a rlly good job explaining this concept.