Healing is realizing you also hurt people, even if it wasn’t intentional. It’s allowing yourself to say, “i didn’t mean to cause pain, but i see now that i did and i'm willing to grow from it.” This awareness makes you honest. And honesty is where real transformation begins
Sis, send that paragraph. Send it all. It won’t make him suddenly start to care, and he won’t feel guilty. He might not even acknowledge it or might do so to further gaslight you, but send it still. Not for him, but for yourself.
I think I lost my spark. I talk less, I keep to myself, I've mastered distance. I'm not angry, I'm not bitter. I just don't have the energy to show up like I used to. Somewhere along the way, I slipped into this I don't care phase.
He may not always have the perfect words, but he chooses reassurance over silence, connection over ego. That kind of love doesn’t run when it gets uncomfortable—it stays, repairs, and reminds you that you’re safe, even in the hard moments.
Marry the man who doesn’t disappear after the argument. The one who still checks in, even when things feel heavy and emotions are raw. The one who puts his pride to the side and makes it clear that walking away was never an option.