El calvo de Schrödinger

Técnico superior de administración y finanzas. No twitteo cosas políticamente correctas, así que si tienes la piel finita puede que no quieras leerme. #TeamLib

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

Three years of silence is roughly what it takes for one of your closest friends to fade into just another acquaintance. A casual friend gets there in a few months. Same silence, opposite outcome, and the gap is mostly the hours you already put in together.

A researcher at the University of Kansas, Jeffrey Hall, measured this in 2018. He tracked new friendships and found rough lines: about 50 hours of time together to go from stranger to casual friend, around 90 to become friends, and more than 200 hours before someone counts as a close one. The kind of time matters, too. Hanging out, joking around, and playing games all count, but hours stuck working next to someone barely count at all.

That banked time is what makes a friendship hard to kill. Below that line, silence does kill it, on a fairly predictable timeline. Robin Dunbar, the Oxford scientist behind the idea that we can only keep up about 150 relationships at once, has spent decades on this. He splits your circle into layers: about 5 people you're closest to, around 15 good friends past them, then 50, then everyone else. The outer layers are fragile. Unlike family, those friendships need regular contact or the closeness drops within months. Feeling fond of them does nothing. The bond fades anyway unless you talk or do things together.

There's a reason only a few people get to be ghost-proof. A 2014 study out of Oxford and a university in Finland found that each of us has a fixed pattern for how we split our attention between people. A small number get the bulk of you, and that pattern stays steady even as the specific names change. How you keep in touch barely matters. In person, calls, texts, social media, they all tend to make the same shape.

The people in that top slot are the durable ones. Researchers tracking people's closest bonds in 2022 found the inner few stay steady across years. Those are the friendships that can survive you going quiet for months and pick right back up. The tweet is describing them exactly. It just skips the part where you spent a couple hundred hours earning it.

This shows up in your body, too. A review of 148 studies covering more than 300,000 people found that people with strong social ties have about 50% better odds of staying alive over any given period. The US Surgeon General now puts the health cost of weak connection near smoking 15 cigarettes a day. The handful of friends who let you go quiet and never bring it up are doing more for your body than almost anything in your medicine cabinet.

[El calvo de Schrödinger @Sedano97]

Gracias por todo, jefe 🫡

[Robert Lewandowski @lewy_official]

After four years full of challenges and hard work, it's time to move on.

I leave with the feeling that the mission is complete. 4 seasons, 3 championships.

I will never forget the love I received from the fans from my very first days.
Catalonia is my place on earth.

Thank you to everyone I met along the way during these beautiful four years.
A special thank you to President Laporta for giving me the chance to live the most incredible chapter of my career.

Barça is back where it belongs.
Visca el Barça. Visca Catalunya 💙❤️

@fcbarcelona

[Asanwa.sol @Chizitere_xyz]

The hypocrisy around "acts of service" in modern dating is insane. When a man runs a bath for his girl, gives her a massage, breakfast in bed and caters to her every whim, the timeline swoons and calls it "princess treatment, he is a real man" But the exact second a woman makes her man a plate, rubs his shoulders after a long day, or caters to his peace, the timeline attacks her, calls her a "pick-me," and screams about domestic slavery. We have romanticized receiving service but completely demonized giving it.

[•Mel•🏂 @DrMel_]

I’ve always wondered why majority of the people I’ve met in my adult life have been avoidant women, couldn’t quite pin point what was attracting them to me but the moment I realized, everything changed

I realized why I kept attracting them is cos I gave without asking for anything in return. I meet someone and once I feel a little chemistry, I switch to caretaker mode, I validate them, listen to them, go out of my way to be there for them, create safety for them to open up and they do

But I do this not minding if they’re doing same for me, and honestly that’s one of the fastest ways to build exhaustion and resentment. If you keep giving, hoping they’ll give back, you’re wasting your time. Nobody recieved free money and goes “oh maybe I need to give him too” when the giver hasn’t asked for any

I’m now realizing I should have matched energy, I should have paced my emotional investment, should have given and waited to be given back cos that’s what a relationship is, reciprocal not one sided.

If you’re reading this and you can relate, stop abandoning yourself. You deserve to be listened to as well, you deserve to be validated, you deserve to have your needs met, don’t let yourself go without reciprocation. A healthy relationship is one where both people strive to be emotionally responsible for each other not one partner being responsible while feeling exploited

[S.D.K.P. @_SDKP_]

Kobieta potrafi stwierdzić na podstawie twojej twarzy że masz paskudny charakter, albo na podstawie jednego twojego wpisu na twitterze ze jesteś incelem, ale nie potrafi przewidzieć że pijany patus z klubu któremu daje dupy spierdoli po wpadce.

Paradoks kobiecej intuicji.

[NORTHERN SCUM🐊 @Unserious_Exrha]

When you ask your girl if she knows Dembele and she says “yeah, he was untouchable at Spurs”

[hunter @3gpmh]

i once tried journaling but it looked like i was writing a suicide note

[El calvo de Schrödinger @Sedano97]

Hubo tres penaltis de hecho jajajaja

[Fabrizio Romano @FabrizioRomano]

🚨 Juan Musso answers to Raphinha: “You simply can NOT talk about a robbery”.

“You make it seem like there were three penalties or four red cards. We won on the pitch. We won 2-0 away from home. Last man in football is also a red card”.

[Fanbact✰™ @ywnbact]

Probably single greatest contributor to the plague of people just playing shit out loud in public places

[incredibly nice and correct angel @tragic_endings_]

The idea that misogynistic and racist men don’t get girlfriends is so funny lol

Ppl genuinely believe deep down getting pussy is evidence of moral virtue

[bruno @meatgrinder000]

a los cuantos dias de la relacion le puedo empezar a hablar a la mejor amiga

[゛ ☆ .ᐟ ⋆ @veinIuvr]

i started doing this and my cortisol has never been so low

[Edu @noaylucky]

No sois conscientes de lo dura que es la soledad.

Que nadie te espere cuando llegues a casa de trabajar, que nadie te dé un beso cuando te acuestas reventado, que nadie te cocine tu plato favorito porque hoy es tu cumpleaños.

La sociedad que más ansiolíticos consume, eso somos.

[WHAM @WhamSteppa]

Maybe my soulmate got stuck in a condom

[Monchin @DonMonchin]

Con este mensaje termino de perderla.

[PAUPE @paupecf]

💣🚨 | MARCOS LLORENTE SOBRE CARVAJAL

🎙️"No le hice nada porque era de los míos, llega a ser un rojazo y me caen 10 partidos"

🎙️"Me voy a dejar de gafas rojas y amarillas y me voy a poner unas graduadas, porque esa hostia no la vi venir"

🎙️"Al final del partido me dijo que él iba a jugar el mundial sí o sí... y que el tobillo de Pedro Porro le pillaba muy lejos"

[El calvo de Schrödinger @Sedano97]

Y qué pasa con las mujeres homosexuales?? 🤔

[El calvo de Schrödinger @Sedano97]

Que hambre joer

[𝔻𝕒𝕟. @fwdaniels]

It's funny how a person can go hours without texting back, but when you meet them irl they check their phone every minute.