Self, Untangled

Relationship + Mental Health + Identity, feels like a journey or CHD Clips

[Self, Untangled @SelfUntangled]

Yesterday someone asked why i go quiet in arguments and it took me a whole day to answer honestly. because quiet was safe where i grew up. because loud voices meant something was about to break, and i decided young that if i just got small enough, invisible enough, agreeable enough, the storm would pass over me. so i got real good at disappearing mid-conversation. good at nodding. good at "it's fine" when nothing was fine. and here's the part i'm still sitting with: i carried that survival skill straight into relationships with people who never raised their voice at all. people who would've listened. people who asked real questions and waited for real answers. and i still shut the door, still went silent, still managed the temperature of every room like it was my job. that's not a personality trait. that's a childhood still running the software. and the wildest thing about healing is realizing some of the things you hate most about yourself were once the smartest moves you had. i'm not broken. i was adapting. now i'm learning to stay in the room when it gets loud — or when it gets honest, which is somehow louder.

[Self, Untangled @SelfUntangled]

@ANdidiamak9917 surviving is enough on the hard days, rest is productive too

[Ayogu Peace Ndidiamaka @ANdidiamak9917]

There are moments when surviving is enough.

You don't have to be productive every day.

Sometimes resting and protecting your peace is progress.

[SKIDA🎱 @SKIDAmob]

I look at the mirror and I’m proud of the demon I’m becoming
Had to accept that I was the villain

[Self, Untangled @SelfUntangled]

@biggerbrr every experience taught you something, that's the whole point of the journey

[bigalo_o @biggerbrr]

In this life, i have loved and been loved, lost items i wish i could have held on to, missed people and memories, believed in people and trust that i shouldn't, fallen and made mistakes, carried pain i didn't see coming.
Nonetheless in the middle of all the highs and lows, something never changed, i continued learning.
There's a lesson in every experience, and the lessons will help make me into who i want to be.

[Sir Nkosi @Sanele_NS]

YOUR FRIENDS MAY SAVE YOU IN WAYS THEY NEVER REALISE.

One dangerous thing about divorce is isolation.

Especially for men whose wife was also their closest friend.

Suddenly there is nobody to call at 10 p.m.

That's why men need meaningful relationships outside romance.

A brother.
A friend.
A mentor.
A pastor.
A counsellor.

Someone who can hear: “I'm not doing well tonight.”

Men, build brotherhood before the storm.

Because sometimes the strongest sentence a man can say is: “I need someone to talk to.”

[Amaka💕 @_prettyamaka]

Soft life is not just skincare, parties, brunch, etc. It's blocking the man who keeps testing how much nonsense you'll tolerate.

[Self, Untangled @SelfUntangled]

@_prettyamaka soft life is really just peace of mind and a clean block list, that's it

[Jane✨🌸 @Janeuisv]

You are allowed to outgrow the version of yourself that survived difficult seasons.

[Self, Untangled @SelfUntangled]

@Janeuisv you're allowed to retire the version of you that had to fight to survive, growth is the point

[Self, Untangled @SelfUntangled]

@Royal_Alpha5 everyone's comparing their behind-the-scenes to everyone else's highlight reel, that's the poison

[Alpha King @Royal_Alpha5]

Why is everyone nowadays depressed
every generation had their fair share of ups and downs but this generation of people is self destructive
Can someone help me understand why people are doing worse now

[Self, Untangled @SelfUntangled]

@Tunex01 they only realize your worth when you're no longer available, classic

[Sir 𝐓𝐮𝐧𝐧𝐲🔥 @Tunex01]

Sometimes people don’t see the value of your presence until they no longer have access to it. 💯

[Self, Untangled @SelfUntangled]

@kellytheboss7 the way the brain brings up 2017 embarrassment instead of the password is criminal

[kelly @kellytheboss7]

I opened my laptop to do something important.
The screen came on.
I stared at it.
My brain went completely blank.
Then, somehow, I remembered an embarrassing conversation from 2017.
Not the task.
Not the password.
Not why I opened the laptop.
2017.
Thank you, ADHD.

[Self, Untangled @SelfUntangled]

@imhugeone nobody's ever fully ready, you just jump and figure it out together

[Emeka Daniel @Emeka7590]

I used to fill every spare moment so I wouldn’t have to feel anything.
Now I leave some empty on purpose.
The feelings still come, but they don’t own the whole day.

[Sᴛᴇᴘᴘᴇʀ🅴 @stepper_7]

I’m going to publish an article on how I think the 𝕏 algorithm works this evening and I hope you will be there. 🫵