“What's wrong with you lately? You seem to be checked out & not yourself.”
Me: I'm grieving a life I thought I would have, battling stuff that no one knows about, & craving a future that I don't think exists for me, so yeah I'm pretty checked out. I'm fine though.
"stay with them through ups & downs."
downs are NOT:
-cheating
-disrespect
-abuse: verbal, mental, physical, spiritual
-manipulation
-gaslighting
-control
downs are:
-financial hardships
-health issues
-tragic death/injury
-rough points in a relationship (arguing, lack of
intercourse, losing the "spark")
-trouble keeping/finding individuality in a relationship
stop normalizing putting yourself through trauma trying to prove to somebody that you love them
Suicidal thoughts are often subtle.
They whisper instead of scream.
They sound like:
I don’t care what happens to me.
It might be easier if I wasn’t here.
I feel trapped in a life I can’t escape.
I don’t see a future for myself.
Everything feels too big, too loud, too heavy.
I’m numb, but it still hurts.
I’m here… but I’m not.
These aren’t “dramatic” thoughts.
They’re red flags.
They’re silent cries for help.
They’re signs someone needs compassion long before crisis.
You’re told:
“Go no-contact.”
“Focus on yourself.”
“Time will heal it.”
But no one tells you what to do at 2AM when your chest hurts and your brain won’t stop replaying them.