I fell in love during NYSC and genuinely thought I had met my wife.
11 months later, life had other plans. She got a job in London after service. I stayed back.
We tried long distance. No cheating. No betrayal. No shouting. Just two people who loved each other and slowly realized the map was stronger than the feelings.
She is married now, and I sincerely wish her well.
One thing NYSC taught me is this:
Not every love story ends in marriage.
Some people come into your life to leave memories, lessons and peace.
No matter what it will cost you, please avoid going to jail, especially in a country like Nigeria. Aside that the general living condition in prison will make your live a million times worse than it was before going to prison, your post-prison life might be extra worse.
Avoid crimes, with everything you have.
My first fling with a guy:
I was asked to check whether the water on a boiling ring was boiling. Being an innocent scientist, I decided to test the temperature myself and put my hand in.
The incident was brief, intense, and left a lasting impression. Before I knew it, I was flung across the wall like a lover being swept off their feet in the heat of romance. If only the walls could talkā¦
That was my first fling with a hot guy.
So what's the actual answer?
Rent if:
⢠Your income is still growing
⢠You might relocate in 5ā7 years
⢠You don't yet have a solid emergency fund
Buy if:
⢠Your income is stable
⢠You're settled for the long term
⢠You can afford ownership without crippling your finances
This should be spread across the country
People must understand that not voting is supporting the government in power.
This young man explained it better.
We were at the airport in Accra waiting for our flight back to Nigeria. Take-off time was 5.15 pm and we'd arrived early enough to settle in at the lounge and grab some snacks and drinks.
About twenty minutes to 5, I checked my wristwatch. I glanced at the screen ahead of me and saw our flight "Ibom Air - 5:15 pm - On time". Okay.
About ten minutes to 5, I checked my wristwatch again and began to get uncomfortable. Our flight hadn't been called. It was unusual. I glanced at the screen again and still saw our flight with "On time". I almost thought they were mad. This is say 20 minutes to our take-off, you've not called us, and you're saying we are on time. How?
I kept my cool. Then about five minutes past 5 pm, I looked at my wristwatch again and, this time, looked at my husband who was comfortably working on his laptop.
WHY HAVEN'T THEY CALLED US???
We were literally ten minutes away from take-off and they hadn't even boarded us. "Oh God, these Nigerian airlines!!! Always showing their anyhowness. In what world is this even acceptable?!!!"
My husband's response was shockingly calm - "Baby, they'll still call us. We're on time".
Ah ha. ON TIME KE???? Meanwhile, my husband is the human reference of punctuality. He gets everywhere early.
That was when it clicked!!! When we arrived Ghana, my phone's clock had automatically reset to Ghanaian time. However, because I wanted to stay connected to the Nigeria, I left my wristwatch on Nigerian time.
It was 5.15 Nigerian time, but it was 4.15 Ghanaian time ššš
I couldn't believe my ridiculousness. I spent the next one hour thinking about what that means to many of us. Are you really late in life? Or are you just unaware of the time of your life? Are you really late? Or is the problem the clock you're looking at.
Often, we're looking at how our lives move with wristwatches that belong to the societal pressure. You're getting older. You should have done this. Time is running. You're late already.
But what if you're not late? What if you're on time? What if you simply need to understand what God says about who you are and where you are?
As the Yorubas say, "MĆ” wo ago alĆ”ago į¹£iį¹£įŗ¹Ģ į»" (Do not work with someone else's time).
That experience will remain with me.
If you are feeling down and things don't seem to be working, do this.
Get into a room alone, shut the door and begin to declare God's promises out loud speaking forth his blessings and strength into your life.
Do it until your mood changes and then you would have broken the back of a spirit which was trying to put you in bondage.
Repeat this every time a depressing feeling comes on you and sooner than you think it will be a thing of the past and a new season will be born in your life.
#MondayMotivation
Cooking and cleaning are basic life skills. AGREED.
Most men already know how to cook we are not incapable. We all know how to cook. You think we didnāt live as single men or bachelors?
But when we get married, cooking is often not the main priority. Bills, work, and providing are usually what stay on our minds.
Thatās why, in many households, cooking is left to the woman not because she is lesser, but because her focus is often more centered on the home, the children, and their daily needs: what they will eat, how they will sleep, their homework, and their health.
This is also why cooking and cleaning were traditionally placed more on women, because they typically spent more time in the home with the children while the husband spent more time working and providing outside the home.
Gender roles were not originally created purely out of sexism; they developed from how men and women lived their everyday lives and the responsibilities they naturally took on in traditional households.
IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING A SLAVE.
Lagos Rent Displacement Theory.
This is what a friend told me about the theory of ongoing displacement in Lagos due to crazy rent prices.
Those in Island paying 12-15million to rent a 3-bedroom and unable to afford it any longer take the option of relocating to Mainland.
They then decide to invade Gbagada, and pronto. 5million naira rent gets jacked up to 7.5million.
They have outmuscled the hitherto Gbagada tenants.
Those ones either match them or move to Shomolu jejely.
The ones in Magodo cannot afford the 10m rent again, and are ready to pay 5m for house in Ketu.
The displaced people from Ketu, then move to Berger to displace the hitherto residents of there.
The earlier residents of Berger nko- They are then displaced to Arepo, Mowe and co.
Rent in Iyana-Ipaja for some houses is already 2 million naira.
That is how unbridled capitalism makes life unattainable for millions.
This is exactly the same thing Iāve been thinking about for a while. It appears like weāve confused good policy design with good policy outcomes.
Subsidy removal, FX liberalisation, tax reforms and those āhard economic policiesā sound good and they appear correct on paper. But these policies assume a functioning safety net, productive capacity that can absorb the shock, and a state that reinvests the savings into the people. Strip those away and youāre not implementing any reform, youāre just transferring pain downward which is what this administration has been doing.
Three years in and the people have not benefited from these policies. Commodity prices up 3ā4x, school fees unaffordable but ofc, there is NELFUND lol, real wages destroyed. The āsavingsā from subsidy removal havenāt visibly returned to citizens in any form.
Good policies without structural follow-through arenāt good policies. Theyāre just austerity disguised as improvements and we all would be used as collateral damages for the perceived improvement.
This question is actually deep and hits home for so many people. Without the password or biometrics, modern phones (especially iPhones) use strong encryption that keeps everything locked.
Simply resetting or "flashing" the phone usually wipes all your photos, messages, and important data forever, leaving families with nothing but frustration and lost memories.
The smart solution is to plan ahead right now while you still can:
FOR IPHONE USERS:
Go to Settings > tap your name at the top > Sign-In & Security > Legacy Contact.
Add one or more trusted people (like a spouse, child, or sibling). You'll get an access key to share with them.
After you pass, they just need that key plus a copy of your death certificate to request access to your Apple account and data.
It's straightforward and doesn't require going to court in most cases.
FOR ANDROID/GOOGLE USERS:
Go to https://t.co/ZXZMiSLgfb, sign in, then head to Data & Privacy > More options > Make a plan for your digital legacy (or search for Inactive Account Manager).
Choose a waiting period (like 3 to 18 months of inactivity), pick trusted contacts, and decide what data to share (Gmail, photos, Drive files, etc.). Google will notify them and give access if the account goes inactive.
Do this today. It only takes a few minutes, but it can save your loved ones from huge headaches later.
Most people never think about it until it's too late, and precious memories or important information end up locked away forever.
Above all, love God.
I i was telling my wife the other day that I feel so bad for Gen zs and the generation after them.
I was at an event that had a lot of them, and it was just sad.
Bad Govt and bad economy have robbed them of having a vibrant social life.
They hardly buy drinks at the club, can't afford cars, and can't afford decent apartments, so they create their own little way of having fun in raves and the likes.
No money to afford drinks. That's why you see prevalent recreational drug use in that demographic
From Uni, I was able to properly plan and go clubbing and will have such an amazing time, i would fly from Benin to Lagos with 10k then and not pay it any thought.
When I started working, my first car was 700k, a 2006 EOD in 2012 then, and when I moved to my first apartment. Rent was 1m for a 2bed on the island, and 1hp ac was 60k.
I remember buying a ticket to Venice for 180k and changing 2000usd for 360k at southern sun that year.
I feel so bad for them, their youth taken away from them because bad govt after bad govt, devaluation after devaluation.
It's economics
Individual Boreholes are more expensive than public tap water
An individual off-grid solar installation is more expensive than the power grid
Private schools are more expensive than public schools
The LGA, State should provide the basics, then the middle class can decide if they want to stay with the grid or go off-grid
You can't solve the lack of power by asking individuals earning N70,000 a month to buy and install individual solar installations, thats like a French queen asking people without bread to eat cake.
Nor can you solve failing public education by encouraging private for-profit schools
A government funded by oil should be able to provide at a minimum
1. Clean water to public taps
2. Steady, reliable power supply
3. Free education for all or means-tested free education for the needy
4. Free emergency and primary health care
What's the point of executive airports if Children roam the streets during classes and SMEs use generators?
Many of you are simply making excuses for the well-funded government. There are sufficient revenues; what is lacking is the people to demand results
I have never heard a minister say, āThere is no money to buy me a new official SUVā, but once it's time to provide the basics, they hear excuses, and the citizens defend the excuses
When I was growing up, oil was not $50, but water flowed from taps, power was predictable, and the FGC were elite.
What you tolerate, you can't change
THIS IS A MESSAGE TO EVERY NIGERIAN CHRISTIAN, EITHER IN NIGERIA OR OUTSIDE THE COUNTRY.
THIS IS ALSO A MESSAGE TO EVERY CHRISTIAN ORGANISATION IN NIGERIA.
God will bear me witness that I did my part.
To non-Christians like myself too, we need to realize the potential danger here. A Christian-majority social order has proven to be more tolerant of ideological diversity. Atheists, feminists, proponents of African Traditional Religion and other worldviews, can still exist publicly, criticize Christianity, or advocate alternative practices without facing existential threat or suppression.
So if Christianity falls in Nigeria, the alternative dominant order would be less tolerant of us. We are going to face stronger restrictions and persecution.
So even if you oppose Christianity intellectually, ur ability to oppose it safely depends on Christianity remaining dominant.
Choose your battle wisely.
Woke up this morning thinking about the quality of life Iām living in this country, literally all my life Iāve been conditioned to live this way, this isnāt the life meant for me as Nigerian.
In the last 48 hrs Iāve not had light for close to 2hrs, dawg this isnāt life⦠me and my flatmates been burning money on fuel, itās crazy, canāt cook cos thereās no light to even store the food.
I have been house hunting since September and all I have been seeing is stupid houses with ridiculous prices, no way Iām going to be paying millions of naira on bare minimum apartments.
Jesus Christ, one of my friends wey japa go UK for January him qualify of life don change, you donāt even need to tell me I can see it from his IG stories, Iām here shirtless while typing this stupid tweet blowing myself with my shirt cos heat wan kill me.
Today Iāll go to work and come back and meet no light still and think of buying fuel for another 900 naira per liter, do you know how insane that is, my dad already had me at this age and already building his own house.
Fuck Nigeria mehn, Iām not the type to crash out but I woke up thinking about the quality of life Iām living and itās so fucking sad. Fuck all of you involved in this shit hole of a county, I fucking hate you all. Fuck APC too, Fuck me & Fuck U too cos we are way too scared to demand a better life for us and for our unborn kids.
Iām not asking for too much just the basic things dawg, the fucking basic things to live a comfortable life, why canāt my own country government give me that, do I have to Japa, how many people fit japa. We really gotta make things work mehn cos this country is damaged.
Everyoneās missing the real story here.
Metaās Ray-Ban glasses need human data annotators to train the AI. When you say āHey Metaā and ask the glasses to analyze something, that video gets sent to Metaās servers, then routed to Sama, a subcontractor in Nairobi, Kenya. Workers there manually label objects in your footage. They see everything you recorded, intentionally or not.
7 million pairs sold in 2025 alone. Every single pair generates training data that flows through human eyes in Kenya. Workers told Swedish journalists they see people undressing, using bathrooms, having sex, and accidentally filming bank card details. One worker said āwe see everything, from living rooms to naked bodies.ā
Metaās automatic face anonymization is supposed to protect people in the footage. Workers say it fails in certain lighting. Faces that should be blurred are sometimes fully visible. The person you recorded without knowing? A stranger in Nairobi can identify them.
Buried in Metaās terms of service is one sentence doing enormous legal work: the company reserves the right to conduct āmanual (human) reviewā of your AI interactions. Thatās the legal cover for routing intimate footage from Western homes to a $2/hour labor force operating under NDAs, office surveillance cameras, and a strict no-questions policy. Workers say if you raise concerns about what youāre seeing, youāre fired.
This is the same company, Sama, that TIME exposed in 2023 for paying Kenyan workers $2/hour to label graphic content for OpenAI while being billed at $12.50/hour per worker. Workers described the experience as torture. Sama ended that contract, then pivoted to labeling Metaās glasses footage. Same workforce. Same rates.
Meta markets these glasses as ādesigned with your privacy in mind.ā The privacy design is a tiny LED light on the frame that most people donāt notice. The data pipeline behind it routes your bedroom footage to a contractor with a documented history of worker exploitation, failed anonymization, and union-busting lawsuits.
And the next generation of these glasses? Meta is planning to add facial recognition. The same system that canāt reliably blur faces in training data wants to start identifying them on purpose.
The LED light on the frame is doing about as much for your privacy as the terms of service nobody reads.