Mick | Sex, Science & HIV

HIV Activist for 17 years • 14 years work in prevention and science • Trained sex coach • Navigating sexual ambivalences without shallow answers

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

Just a reminder:

• People with #HIV can live well and long
• Under effective treatment, they won't transmit the virus during sex without condom
• If you doubt this or have irrational fears, that's not HIV+ people's job to fix

Your feelings are your responsibility.

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

The 3-step process to sexual freedom:

1) Identify where your shame comes from (parents, religion, culture, porn)
2) Ask: Is this actually MY belief or was it given to me?
3) Replace it with what YOU actually feel

Most people quit before step 1 because it's uncomfortable.

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

A client cried in our first session: "I feel guilty every time I masturbate. Like I'm doing something sinful."

We didn't fix it in one session.

We just started asking: Where did you learn that?

That question changed everything for her.

It can for you too.

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

Most sexual advice comes from people who are ashamed of their own sexuality.

That's why it usually sucks.

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

Sex became "dirty" the moment institutions realized: If people are ashamed of their sexuality, they're easier to control.

Ashamed people don't ask questions or set boundaries.

Shame was taught strategically. Most of us learned it so well, we think it's natural. It's not.

[𝐄.🚩 @Wyd_eshuu]

Why is sex considered “dirty” and “sinful”.???

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

@Wyd_eshuu Sex became "dirty" the moment institutions realized: If people are ashamed of their sexuality, they're easier to control. An ashamed person doesn't ask questions or set boundaries. Shame was taught strategically. Most of us learned it so well, we think it's natural. It's not.

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

@gaytimes That's unbelievable. F*ck stigma!

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

Just a reminder:

• People with #HIV can live well and long
• Under effective treatment, they won't transmit the virus during sex without condom
• If you doubt this or have irrational fears, that's not HIV+ people's job to fix

Your feelings are your responsibility.

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

THE ANUS IS NOT A SEXUAL ORGAN
THE ANUS IS NOT A SEXUAL ORGAN
THE ANUS IS NOT A SEXUAL ORGAN

This is wrong, if we look at it from a sexological perspective. 1/5🧵

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

@Cupcakeclues @Dirtyandvirgin Of course not, oral is not just oral. There are different positions and other stuff.

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

Real sexual freedom is unlearning what you were taught.

Cultural norms hide behind "biology" to justify shame.

If it's consensual pleasure? It belongs to your sexuality.

Stop letting shame decide what's normal for your body. 💚 5/5

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

THE ANUS IS NOT A SEXUAL ORGAN
THE ANUS IS NOT A SEXUAL ORGAN
THE ANUS IS NOT A SEXUAL ORGAN

This is wrong, if we look at it from a sexological perspective. 1/5��

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

But sex is never just anatomy, instead it is psychosexually complex. Your body meets your mind and your history.

You can have "perfect" anatomy but terrible pleasure because of what you believe about yourself.

That's the real work. 4/5

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

@fiercepatricks Period.

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

If sex were only for making babies, we’d be a biological disaster. Even with perfect timing, the "success rate" is only about 25%.

Nature gave us a sex drive that works 365 days a year (not just during ovulation) for a reason. It’s the glue that keeps us connected and builds trust.

[Luke Dashjr @LukeDashjr]

@SexWithMick @Suviyafawn No, sex is about/for procreation.
Intimacy is secondary, and pleasure is the reward for procreating

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

Science says: Generally, yes. It's a mix of fructose, zinc, and enzymes. Though it's definitely not a replacement for your protein shake. 😉

The real "health" factor is your STI status. While HIV risk is extremely low, other STIs like Chlamydia or Gonorrhea can still be transmitted orally.

If you're both tested and you like the taste-enjoy. Pleasure is health, too. ❤️

[Mick | Sex, Science & HIV @SexWithMick]

@Nikuddapoet From a sexological perspective, this is wrong.

A "sexual organ" isn't defined by reproduction, but by its function for pleasure and arousal. The anus is a highly sensitive erogenous zone, neurologically linked to the pelvic floor and prostate.

Anatomy doesn't care about moral.