Shan Boodram

I'm an AASECT certified sex educator, an American Board of Sexology certified Sexologist, with a M.S. in psychology best known for LOVERS podcast

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

Does Unrequited Love Mean the Love Wasn't Real?

This week on the LOVERS podcast, @tanerelle talks about the difference between being used and being mused (her word, and a good one), what it costs to be someone's muse instead of their person, and why those two things can feel identical from the inside until they don't.

This episode is out now wherever you listen to podcasts! Watch the full episode here: https://t.co/VKp0mOVOKg

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

Does Unrequited Love Mean the Love Wasn't Real?

This week on the LOVERS podcast, @tanerelle talks about the difference between being used and being mused (her word, and a good one), what it costs to be someone's muse instead of their person, and why those two things can feel identical from the inside until they don't.

This episode is out now wherever you listen to podcasts! Watch the full episode here: https://t.co/VKp0mOVOKg

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

Hey Lovers!

This week on the LOVERS podcast, @tanerelle is back to trace her song "Feels Like Love" back to where it started: a late-night phone call with an ex that felt like home, until she realized she was the only one who felt it.

People hear the title and assume it's a love song but it isn't. It's about someone she's no longer with.

This episode is out now wherever you listen to podcasts! Watch the full episode here: https://t.co/VKp0mOVOKg

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

Hey Lovers!

This week on the LOVERS podcast, @tanerelle is back to trace her song "Feels Like Love" back to where it started: a late-night phone call with an ex that felt like home, until she realized she was the only one who felt it.

People hear the title and assume it's a love song but it isn't. It's about someone she's no longer with.

This episode is out now wherever you listen to podcasts! Watch the full episode here: https://t.co/VKp0mOVOKg

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

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Hey LOVERS!

This week on the LOVERS podcast, my husband @EnjoyJaredBrady and I sit down to talk about the third kind of intimacy.

We talk so much about emotional intimacy and physical intimacy, but there’s another part of relationships we rarely name.

I call it Social Intimacy. It’s the way partners represent and include each other in the relationships, communities, and environments that shape their lives. It’s also how we speak about, advocate for, and make room for each other when we aren’t in the same room.

Out now wherever you listen to podcasts. Watch the episode here: https://t.co/l0eZ3aIwlJ

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

If you enjoyed this conversation, download the resource here: https://t.co/kKfozLWZ7W

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

Hey LOVERS!

This week on the LOVERS podcast, my husband @EnjoyJaredBrady and I sit down to talk about the third kind of intimacy.

We talk so much about emotional intimacy and physical intimacy, but there’s another part of relationships we rarely name.

I call it Social Intimacy. It’s the way partners represent and include each other in the relationships, communities, and environments that shape their lives. It’s also how we speak about, advocate for, and make room for each other when we aren’t in the same room.

Out now wherever you listen to podcasts. Watch the episode here: https://t.co/l0eZ3aIwlJ

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

Hey LOVERS!

This week on the LOVERS podcast, my husband @EnjoyJaredBrady and I sit down to talk about the third kind of intimacy.

We talk so much about emotional intimacy and physical intimacy, but there’s another part of relationships we rarely name.

I call it Social Intimacy. It’s the way partners represent and include each other in the relationships, communities, and environments that shape their lives. It’s also how we speak about, advocate for, and make room for each other when we aren’t in the same room.

Out now wherever you listen to podcasts. Watch the episode here: https://t.co/l0eZ3aIwlJ

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

Last week on the LOVERS podcast I sat across from Ericka Hart and she said something that I haven't been able to shake.

She talked about masturbation, not as a fallback, not as something you do when you're bored or your partner's not in the mood, but as resistance. A refusal to wait for someone else to be the one who decides she gets to feel good.

It's out now on your favorite platform to listen to podcasts and you can also watch it here: https://t.co/uHp6cXOM0A

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

Hey Lovers!

What happens when strength becomes the only version of yourself you’re allowed to be?

This week on LOVERS, comedian, actor, and creator @youngezee opens up about the pressure she felt to be the strong one in her relationships, and what changed when she finally found a relationship where she felt safe enough to be fully herself.

The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen to podcasts.

Watch it now here: https://t.co/yY7lN2UgHD

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

Hey Lovers,

I wrote about the part of Father's Day that nobody ever posts about--the cost of choosing a great dad.

I couldn't be more happy to have chosen Jared as not only my life partner but the father of my children. I'd make this choice in every lifetime if I could and sometimes seeing him be such a great dad makes me realize that sometimes my presence is not always needed for the girls to have a great time. Being with dad is more than enough.

You can ead the full essay on my substack here: https://t.co/L4oUTHEPUV

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

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[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

Hey Lovers,

I wrote about the part of Father's Day that nobody ever posts about--the cost of choosing a great dad.

I couldn't be more happy to have chosen Jared as not only my life partner but the father of my children. I'd make this choice in every lifetime if I could and sometimes seeing him be such a great dad makes me realize that sometimes my presence is not always needed for the girls to have a great time. Being with dad is more than enough.

You can ead the full essay on my substack here: https://t.co/L4oUTHEPUV

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

@keeponsmiIin That’s fair! We all have our little *things* but it’s def something to consider. Thank you for reading! 🥰

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

@Melissa_Kimble Would love to hear your thoughts!

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Thanks for having me!

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Episode 1 of our sex ed series with @TheCrashCourse & @shanboodram just hit 1 million views🪩

Watch the full series here: https://t.co/Ynfg6fPsZr

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How do you break generational patterns when they’ve already shaped the way you move through the world?

This week on LOVERS, my husband @EnjoyJaredBrady sits down with musician and founder of Piano & Prayer, Johnathan Singletary, for a conversation about fatherhood, breaking generational patterns, and the difference between who we want to be and who we’ve learned to be.

The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts.

Watch it here: https://t.co/TnrybX3iZ7

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

How do you break generational patterns when they’ve already shaped the way you move through the world?

This week on LOVERS, my husband @EnjoyJaredBrady sits down with musician and founder of Piano & Prayer, Johnathan Singletary, for a conversation about fatherhood, breaking generational patterns, and the difference between who we want to be and who we’ve learned to be.

The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts.

Watch it here: https://t.co/TnrybX3iZ7

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

Some jewelry you wear. Some jewelry you are.

Legend has it that when the deity Kamadeva turned to ash, LOVE didn't disappear. It scattered across the elements and became a parrot's song, a fish's graceful swim, a lotus in bloom, the flicker of a flame, the infinite space that holds it all.

Käma's Element Rings carry all five. Not just for decoration, but as a reminder of what your hands already know. Käma is a collection of jewelry created by Kama Sutra Expert Seema Anand, myself and Surmeyi.

Shop the collection: https://t.co/iCTVoYrpro

[Shan Boodram @shanboodram]

In your relationships, do you find yourself keeping one foot out the door, even when you’re happy and in love?

Last week’s guest on LOVERS was @InayahLamis, the Houston-born R&B singer and songwriter who just released her new album, Therapy Wasn’t Enough.

We dive into what it means to be a “leaver,” someone who’s constantly scanning for a reason to go, as well as the challenges that can arise when two people with very different upbringings and cultural values try to build a life together.

Watch the full episode here: https://t.co/fsqsf1dTmq