3. Stress levels.
When we look at the science of how stress affects the body:
Increase in cortisol levels (stress hormone) slows down metabolism & makes it harder to lose weight + easier to gain it.
+ People tend to eat more when they're stressed.
Here's a video I did on it:
"A wise person once said, 'What surprises me most about human kind is that we get bored of our childhood, rush to grow up, and long to be children again.
That we lose our health to make money, and then lose our money that restores our health. That by thinking anxiously about the future, we forget the present, such that we live in neither the present nor the future. That we live as if we were never going to die and die as though we've never lived.'"
The older I get, the more time I spend—as a percentage of each day—on crafting better questions. In my experience, going from 1x to 10x, from 10x to 100x, and from 100x to (when Lady Luck really smiles) 1000x returns in various areas has been a product of better questions. John Dewey’s dictum that “a problem well put is half-solved” applies.
Life punishes the vague wish and rewards the specific ask. After all, conscious thinking is largely asking and answering questions in your own head.
If you want confusion and heartache, ask vague questions. If you want uncommon clarity and results, ask uncommonly clear questions.
Fortunately, this is a skill you can develop. No book can give you all of the answers, but this book can train you to ask better questions. Milan Kundera, author of The Unbearable Lightness of Being, has said that “The stupidity of people comes from having an answer for everything. The wisdom of the novel comes from having a question for everything.”
Substitute “master learner” for “novel,” and you have my philosophy of life.
Often, all that stands between you and what you want is a better set of questions.
I often think of the below story introduced to me by Tara Brach:
"This is a story about a tiger named Mohini that was in captivity in a zoo, who was rescued from an animal sanctuary. Mohini had been confined to a 10-by-10-foot cage with a concrete floor for 5 or 10 years. They finally released her into this big pasture: With excitement and anticipation, they released Mohini into her new and expensive environment, but it was too late. The tiger immediately sought refuge in a corner of the compound, where she lived for the remainder of her life. She paced and paced in that corner until an area 10-by-10 feet was worn bare of grass. . . . Perhaps the biggest tragedy in our lives is that freedom is possible, yet we can pass our years trapped in the same old patterns."
What past limitations—real or perceived—are you carrying as baggage? Where in your life are you pacing in a 10-by-10-foot patch of grass? Where are you afraid of getting sprayed with water, even though it’s never happened? Oftentimes, everything you want is a mere inch outside of your comfort zone. Test it.
Father said to his daughter after she graduated with honors: https://t.co/WiLwZTB8EM
"Here is a car that I acquired many years ago, it is several years old. But before I give it to you take it to the used car lot downtown and tell them you want to sell it and see how much they offer you."
The daughter went to the used car lot returned to her father and said:
"They offered me $1,000"
The father said:
"Take it to the pawn shop then"
The daughter went to the pawn shop returned to her father and said:
"The pawn shop offered $100 because it was a very old car"
The father asked his daughter to go to a car club and show them the car.
The daughter took the car to the club, returned and told her father:
"Some people in the club offered me $100,000, since it is a Nissan Skyline R34, an iconic car and sought after by many"
The father said to his daughter:
"I wanted you to know that the right place values you the right way.
If you are not valued, do not be angry.
It just means you're in the wrong place."
Those who know your value are those who appreciate you.
Never stay in a place where no one sees your value.
Just because it’s a great idea, doesn’t mean you need to do it right now.
Do the other things you know you should do first.
Then when those have worked, then look at your list of great ideas.
“Focus is saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are..” - Steve Jobs
I’m sure this will piss off the crew we all expect it to - but:
You don’t “need” a weekend.
The concept is barely 100 years old.
It’s a modern invention.
What you really need is work you don’t need a weekend from.