Do not invest time or energy trying to convince someone who has made up their mind about your past, your pain, or your needs, that they should extend you basic empathy or respect. They're gonna believe what they believe & do what they do. You work your recovery. Life's too short.
We don’t speak enough about the impact of mental health on basic hygiene.
Bathing, teeth-brushing, meal-prep, and cleaning can feel impossible.
Mental health challenges can be paralyzing, + overwhelming, + caring for self means feeling WORTHY of it. @drjenwolkin
I used to love to read, write, bake, walk, do yoga, color, travel, DIY, etc…I still love those things but my chronically ill body doesn’t allow for much. It’s soul-crushing to use all (or most of) your energy just for survival and none (or almost none) of it for enjoyment.
while haiti is in the news so much this week maybe we should all take a moment to discuss the fact that their economic destitution is entirely due to being forced to spend ~80% of their federal budget every year for 150 years on reparations to france for freeing the slaves
Nobody wanting to wear masks to actually end the COVID-19 pandemic lines up with other things people are unwilling to do to address many other issues that are pushing humanity and the planet over the edge.
Mild discomfort is all it takes for people to dismiss an imminent danger.
We need to change the narrative around family. For a lot of people, family has been the most heartbreaking experience they’ve had. To suggest they owe them loyalty is to dismiss what their mind and body went through and still carries. Family isn’t everything. There’s much more.
Isn’t it strange how, over time, chronic illness can shift the dynamics with friends and family?
When an illness lasts longer than they expect, support can turn into judgment and blame; as if we’re not doing everything possible to manage it.
Accepting responsibly for what we can do in a situation is very different from shaming ourselves for what we "should" be able to do, but can't, in this moment-- or berating ourselves for past decisions or behaviors we can't change now.
True accountability is never cruel.
You do not "always" f*ck up everything. You're human. Humans make mistakes. Our judgment suffers when we're struggling, emotionally or physically. It happens.
Accountability means making changes, & beating the sh*t out of ourselves impairs our ability to do that.
Significant others and family members pushing disabled people to go past their limits and making them feel awful when they can’t is emotional abuse. You just aren’t ready to hear that yet.
Today seems like a good day to remind people that Americans have had the equivalent of 523 9/11s from covid, and that is just the official count without connecting any dots on random cardiac events, post-viral diseases, etc. months or years after infection.
We don’t want lockdowns. We don’t want you to live in fear.
We want masks in healthcare. Free tests & respirators. Clean air in public buildings. Paid sick leave. Universal healthcare for all.
We want people to realize Covid is airborne - what YOU do impacts everyone else.