envelhecer não me assusta. rugas, cabelos brancos e mudanças no corpo fazem parte.
o que me assusta é o declínio da capacidade cognitiva. perder a capacidade de pensar, lembrar, aprender, compreender.
tenho medo de perder a cabeça antes do resto.
Dating to marry will make you realise that the "plenty of fish in the sea" narrative is false and a lot of people are really not worth that level of intimacy.
I’m begging you to kill your fear of being seen. Visibility is your birthright, People need to know you. Infact, treat showing up as putting out data that will help your people find you. You’re not showing up to and for everybody, you’re showing up to and for your people!
You CANNOT go back in time and change the decisions you took. Forgive yourself, move on, be your best version. You're alive and until death all defeat is psychological.
Rebuild.
for nigerian women, it’s not just about wanting better but also how condescending they are to people on the same level as them or slightly above them.
a girl in 100 level will look you in the face and tell you she doesn’t like dating small boys. meanwhile, the ‘small boys’ she’s referring to are her coursemates.
“i saw a guy today, he was so clean and handsome, speaks so well. the only thing that spoilt his rep was that he was driving a corolla” - the words of a nail tech without bicycle.
ask a lady if she will marry a co-worker in the same department, she will tell you ‘no’. after she tells you no, tell her to state her reasons, you will understand this thread.