Unfortunately my last relationship completely changed me. So yes, I DO care about the people in your phone. Yes, I DO care about what you're doing when I’m not around. Yes, I DO care when you seem even slightly off. Yes, I DO care about things I wished I didn’t. And it’s not because I’m insecure, controlling, or trying to make your life difficult. It’s because I learned the hard way what it feels like to trust someone fully… and then be broken by them.
“All my people black so stop asking me why I’m light skin
My great great grandmother was probably raped by the white man
And then the white man went and left his children fatherless
Gave the stereotype to the black man just to escape his cowardice”
Ngl in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you're innocent in the story you created