Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy

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[Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy @ShowMeTheTrauma]

This right here right now 👇the most insightful and possibly freeing thread you can read about Food Addiction. If it doesn't challenge you or make you jump for joy... read it again.

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

𝗩𝗘𝗥𝗬 𝗨𝗡𝗣𝗢𝗣𝗨𝗟𝗔𝗥:
Food is an addiction.
It is severely misunderstood.
It is the most deadly of all dependencies.
Here's the truth:

[Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy @ShowMeTheTrauma]

@DrBobBeare I was always the “good one”, the “nice one” growing up. I made that a goal because I realized I could get a little validation and affirmation with it. And in the process completely lost myself.

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

Most “nice” people aren't actually nice.

They’re anxious.

9 signs “niceness” may be holding you back.🧵

1. YOU KEEP THE PEACE AT YOUR OWN EXPENSE

𝘿𝙧 𝙂𝙤𝙗𝙤𝙧 𝙈𝙖𝙩é

[Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy @ShowMeTheTrauma]

@DrBobBeare Perfectionism and People pleasing… I should have a PhD in these.. funny not funny. There is a freedom that comes with letting go

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

Here are 7 ways trauma hides itself.

And how it runs our lives.🧵

1. TRAUMA DOESN’T STAY IN THE PAST

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

Addiction?
Depression?
Anxiety?
Relationship Problems?

Carl Jung mapped out the solutions decades ago.

Here are 8 Jungian concepts that can change your life:

1. THE SHADOW (𝙃𝙪𝙗𝙚𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙣 𝙤𝙣 𝙅𝙪𝙣𝙜)

[Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy @ShowMeTheTrauma]

@DrBobBeare For years people would say to me "get to the point" or "what are you trying to say?" I really thought I had to make sense to the person I was talking to.

Later I realized it was connected to the fear that I would be treated like my mother who had severe mental illness.

[Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy @ShowMeTheTrauma]

@DrBobBeare All of these ran my life for 30 years... until I found 12 step recovery for food addiction. The shame began to lift!

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

Food addiction is real.

A lot of people are not “overeating.”

They are self-soothing, dissociating, obsessing, and surviving.

Here are 9 things most people completely miss about compulsive eating:

1. FOOD CAN HIT THE BRAIN LIKE A DRUG

[Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy @ShowMeTheTrauma]

@DrBobBeare When I’m feeling pain, able to identify the emotion, and discharge it…. I find the joy!

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

800 years before Bessel van der Kolk, Gabor Maté, and Peter Levine...

Rumi understood trauma healing.

7 healing lessons from Rumi: 🧵

1. PAIN NEEDS MOTION
𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙒𝙝𝙞𝙧𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝘿𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙨𝙝𝙚𝙨 👇

[Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy @ShowMeTheTrauma]

@DrBobBeare Conditioning…. Domestication….what’s modeled…. And our parents/caregivers don’t even realize it! One of the hard things to acknowledge because it looks like blame… when in actuality it’s freedom.

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

Think positive.

Push harder.

Be more disciplined.

The leading trauma experts say that's a recipe for more misery.

Here are 7 things they keep trying to teach us — and most of us ignore: 🧵

1. WE ALL HAVE TRAUMA - SEVERE OR SUBTLE

[Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy @ShowMeTheTrauma]

@DrBobBeare Discovering that most of my goals came from how I was parented, what I was taught to value, and who I thought I needed to become to be accepted, was eye-opening.

The real work wasn’t achieving the goal—it was figuring out which goals truly belonged to me.

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

Most goals fail for one reason:

They belong to someone else.

Your parents.
Your industry.
Your culture.
Your trauma.

Here are 7 things most people miss about vision, goals, and building a life that actually fits:🧵

1. GOALS ARE OVERRATED

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

You may not be living your life.

You may be living a role you were assigned in childhood.

Here are 7 signs enmeshment is still running the show:🧵

1. ENMESHMENT IS CONFUSED IDENTITY

[Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy @ShowMeTheTrauma]

@DrBobBeare I know this one all too well. I was parentified as a kid, taking care of my mentally unstable mother. I took on the role and marched my way through childhood, adolescence, and adulthood confused af! Learning how to say No to caregiving has been a rollercoaster ride for sure!

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

We’re not just looking for love.

We’re trying to medicate an abandonment wound.

That’s why some breakups feel psychologically catastrophic.

Here are 7 things most people miss about love addiction and the “sucking hole” inside us:

1. THE PAIN IS OLDER THAN THE RELATIONSHIP

[Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy @ShowMeTheTrauma]

@DrBobBeare I remember a breakup I had 12 years ago, It felt like I was dying… I am so glad I stayed with the pain and grief, I came out on the other side feeling joy and relief.

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

Relationships fail because the unhealed child within runs the show.

[Kimberly Dragon-Flournoy @ShowMeTheTrauma]

@DrBobBeare I heard once “we date or marry our traumas” I’ve experienced this too many times to count. Familiar doesn’t mean healthy!