Bible says, don't compare yourself amongst yourselves. Why? There's no wisdom in it. You keeping score is not adding anything worthwhile to your human journey.
You shouldn’t seek to build an entire ministry that is birthed out of your own pain, hurt and trauma. Get healed first. Ministry should be built on the foundation of a love for Christ and neighbor. Otherwise it isn’t Gospel ministry, call it something else.
Henri Nouwen says we need two ministries:
1) A ministry of presence
2) A ministry of absence
We must learn to be present w/people & also learn the act of “creative withdrawal” (being absent).
Sabbath keeping is a means of cultivating absence for the sake of loving presence.
I would stay away from using absolute statements when referring to people who made mistakes.
It’s not “you’re a bad person”
It’s “you made a bad decision”