I don't follow the "respect is earned" philosophy. I respect everyone automatically and then each person has the opportunity to lose my respect based on their behavior.
My roomate was attacked by her boyfriend in a jealous rage. He tried to choke her and instead of screaming or resisting she stayed calm and started to caress his face and then kiss him. This calmed him down and they spent the night together. The next morning she was on the train back to her hometown. Men cannot even start to comprehend what women are sometimes forced to do to merely survive.
latinas can mollywop tf out you and get called loving, black women can be minding their own business and get labeled aggressive. we live in a sick world