All I had to do???
Set boundaries
To let logic precede over emotions
Only to realize it was at the expense of my dignity, happiness and peace
…Never again
APPRECIATION
Thank you Nigerian Medical Association (NMA), Kaduna State Branch for the trust and confidence imposed on me.
I pray for Allah’s guidance and I need all of your support to succeed.
Sincere appreciation.
Dr. Aisha Mustapha
Chairman, NMA Kaduna (2026-2028)
The baby is only part of the birth. There's another birth that almost nobody talks about. The PLACENTA. For 9 months, your body grows an entirely new organ, an organ with one job keeping your baby alive. It delivers oxygen, nutrients, hormones, filters waste and connects two completely different circulatory systems without ever mixing your blood. Then, minutes after your baby is born that organ detaches from the wall of your uterus, and when it does, it leaves behind a wound roughly the size of a dinner plate. About 10 cm across, that is why you bleed after birth, because your body is healing a wound. At the same time, your uterus, which stretched enough to hold an entire baby, is working around the clock to shrink back down to its pre pregnancy size. Those after pains you're feeling those contractions, they are your uterus, squeezing itself smaller while compressing hundreds of open blood vessels to stop the bleeding. Now imagine this. If you had a wound that size anywhere else, on your body, on your arm, on your leg, your back, would anyone expect you to be back at work in a week? Would anyone expect you you to entertain visitors? Cook meals, carry a baby day and night smile for photos and get your body back, of course not. You'd probably be in the hospital on a drip. People would tell you to rest up. They'd expect weeks of recovery, yet when that exact wound is hidden inside your body, the world acts as though you should be back to normal almost immediately. 6 weeks later, you go for your postpartum, check up. Many women think it's a milestone that says, wow, you've recovered. It isn't. It's simply checking whether the bleeding has stopped, whether the placental wound has healed and whether your uterus is recovering as expected. It is not a certificate that says your body, brain, hormones, identity or even nervous system have all returned to normal. So if you've ever been wondering, why haven't I bounced back yet? Here's the better question why were you ever expected to bounce back from something this enormous in the first place? Your body is recovering from one of the most extraordinary healing processes a human being can experience. Give yourself some time and space to recover.
Cervical incompetence is the common cause of second trimester pregnancy loss Basically, it means the mouth of the womb, which is the passage for the baby during delivery, is open, softens, and shortens in the second semester without contractions.
Causes and risk factors are:
I wish more women knew this existed…
I had a cervical cerclage during my pregnancy after my doctor discovered that my cervix was opening too early. Before then, I had no idea a condition like this even existed.
Since then, I’ve realized that many women have never heard of cervical insufficiency, even though it can contribute to second-trimester pregnancy loss or very premature birth in some pregnancies.
One thing I also learned is that a routine abdominal (“belly”) scan may not always assess the cervix well. A transvaginal ultrasound is often the best way to accurately measure cervical length when there’s a concern.
I’m sharing this because awareness matters. If you’ve had recurrent miscarriages, a previous second-trimester loss, or a history of very premature birth, it’s worth discussing your cervix with your obstetrician. It may not apply to everyone, but for some women, it can make all the difference.
Disclaimer: This isn’t medical advice, just something I wish more women knew about.
When will some women learn.
You had CS about a year ago, you were told to wait at least 18 months before getting pregnant and do family planning.
You ignored every warning and got pregnant after 4 months.
You came for antenatal and they told you that no problem you have to do CS at 37weeks in this pregnancy.
You acted like you've heard.
You didn't even miss any antenatal visit.
But you suddenly disappeared when it was close to your delivery date.
Instead, you went to a traditional birth attendant.
They induced your scarred uterus.
Now your uterus has torn to pieces and baby has died.
Now we had to remove your uterus to save your life and you can't have kids anymore.
I hate this sort of things.
Na why I no fit specialize in obstetrics.