Simon David

My Fight is Different 💪

GOD FIRST

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

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[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

WHY A MAN MUST LOOK AT HIS FIANCÉE'S MOTHER BEFORE HE CHOOSES A WIFE:

Young man,

Before you marry a woman, don't just study her beauty.

Study her mother.

There is a reason our fathers paid attention to the women in a family long before they approved a marriage.

Experience taught them what romance could not.

Many people think marriage is the union of two individuals.

It is not.

Marriage is the meeting point of values, habits, beliefs, temperaments, and family cultures.

You are not only marrying a woman.
You are marrying the environment that shaped her.

Now, I am not saying every daughter becomes her mother.

No.

But every daughter carries traces of the woman who raised her.

Some traces are visible immediately.

Others emerge years into marriage.

Observe how her mother speaks to her husband.

Observe how she handles disagreements.

Observe how she responds to stress.

Observe her attitude toward respect, responsibility, and accountability.

Because when life becomes difficult, people often return to what they learned at home.

A beautiful face can hide an unhealthy family culture.

Many men investigate a woman's past but never investigate the home that produced her.

That is like inspecting a fruit while ignoring the tree.

The tree matters.

When you visit her family, don't focus on how they treat guests.

Anybody can perform for visitors.

Pay attention to what happens when everyone becomes comfortable.

That is where truth lives.

Watch the women she admires.

Watch the women she imitates.

Watch the women she constantly defends.

People naturally move toward the examples they celebrate.

Look at her mother's relationship with accountability.

Some people are never wrong.

Nothing is ever their fault.

Everyone else becomes the problem.

A child raised in such an environment may unconsciously adopt the same habits.

Observe her mother's attitude toward money.

Some families see money as a tool to build.

Others see it as a weapon to control.

Marriage eventually reveals which culture a person comes from.

Another thing.

Watch how her mother treats people beneath her social status.

The waiter.

The cleaner.

The security guard.

The struggling relative.

Character is often hidden from equals but exposed toward subordinates.

A wise man doesn't only ask:

"Do I love her?"

He also asks:

"What kind of environment produced her thinking?"

Because love can make a man blind.

Marriage has a way of restoring sight.

The purpose of studying her mother is not to judge or condemn.

It is to understand.

You are looking for patterns.

You are looking for strengths, weaknesses, values, and family culture.

Because every family passes something down.

Some pass down wisdom.

Some pass down discipline.

Some pass down loyalty.

Some pass down emotional stability.

Some pass down chaos.

The inheritance is not always financial.

And before anyone gets offended, the same principle applies in reverse.

A woman should also study the father of the man she intends to get married to.

Many sons eventually reveal the lessons they absorbed from the men they watched growing up.

Marriage is not won by finding a perfect spouse.

There are none.

Marriage is won by understanding the patterns attached to the person you choose.

A blind man marries an individual.

A wise man studies the lineage.

So before you choose a wife, don't only ask about beauty, education, or compatibility.

Ask yourself:

"What kind of woman raised this woman?"

That single question has saved many people from years of regret.

The elders understood something this generation often forgets:

Courtship reveals the person. Family reveals the future.

End.

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

@jon_d_doe Moral etiquettes I have all came from my Mum

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Some married men do not mind their wives sexualising themselves on social media, as long as she's making money.

That's why you can see their wives even posting bikini pictures and wearing G-srings showing their wives' butts.

"I love my wife, and she's free to post it".

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Some of you young men will regret not seizing the opportunity that I have provided for you (for many years) to find your future wives.

If you have someone like me as a mentor to many single ladies, you should count yourself lucky.

And I don't just say it, I shoe you examples using my own marriage.

While I agree that not all marriages are the same, but you must know that a woman is a woman, and a man is a man.

Too many young ladies listen to me and look up to me, and many are afraid to disappoint me.

Taking undue advantage of them will do you no good.

You have seen too many examples of failed marriages or relationships, and the shege that young women are showing to men in this generation.

In a community like this where despite all I say about women and their antics, you still see many woman associating with the page, it should tell you something.

You'll never meet them perfect.

But to a large extent, any young lady that has been under my mentorship for years, will not be a total red flag.

You just need to mold her into your specific shape.

Masculinity is shrewd.

Femininity is malleable.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

This is a simple test that you should carry out as a boyfriend.

Whenever your girlfriend is visiting, deliberately keep money somewhere that will be visible to her.

Make sure you count the money, and it should not all be the same denomination. Do not touch the money, and do not ask her to touch it either.

When she leaves, go and count the money.

If it's short, wait to see if she would tell you that she took some money from it and explain what she used it for.

Ideally, she's not supposed to touch the money if you didn't ask her to.

But give her the benefit of the doubt if she touches it without you asking her to.

If she doesn't tell you about it after she has left, carry out the same test again and again.

By the time she has done it more than 3 times, please know that you have not found a wife yet.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Nothing bruises a man's ego like watching his wife feed him and paying most of the bills, and he cannot do anything about it.

Even if he's a lazy man.

End.

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

@instablog9ja Sam people telling you not to allow police to search your phone are still same people wbo have percentage in what those police are bringing to the table

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

She'll start comparing you with the men she has gone ahead to date

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

What I know is this.

When a man finds his wife, he will know.

Nobody needs to tell him that.

But if the woman that you want to marry is your ex that has gone ahead to date or sleep with other men, you have not found your wife yet.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

What I know is this.

When a man finds his wife, he will know.

Nobody needs to tell him that.

But if the woman that you want to marry is your ex that has gone ahead to date or sleep with other men, you have not found your wife yet.

End.

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

@jon_d_doe She'll start comparing you and theen she has gone ahead date

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

I have deliberately used women (including my lovely wife) to fish out men who mean no good for me but pretend like they like me on this app.

In a gathering of men, the man who gets the most respect and admiration from women, is the most hated and envied.

He doesn't have to be the most richest.

The most painful part for them is that I do these things anonymously.

While they show off everyday and act like saints, I show up everyday with my imperfections and I don't act like a saint.

So they come close to me acting like they love what I do, but they actually want to penetrate and look for things to bring me down.

That's exactly what is going on, for those of you who do not think far and wide.

Everything I do here is deliberate and calculative.

I am steps ahead.

But many of you do not know this.

Una just dey follow me dey cruise without thinking deep and futuristic.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Dear young men,

Especially those of you between the ages of 27-33 and are still single.

This is how you know that you may have found your wife:

1. She's highly interested in what you do legitimately for a living, actively trying to encourage you to build your career or business, and always looking out for other opportunities for you.

2. If you live alone, she takes initiatives without being told by observing your home and trying to buy things she knows you need to live a better life in preparation for marriage.

3. She will hardly ask you for money, not because she doesn't need it, but because it's easy for her to get money from other men. And she knows that taking money from other men is an "invitation to treat", and can destroy her relationship with you. And she wouldn't want to make you feel that she's with you for your money, too.

4. When you give her money to do certain things, either for you or for her, she'll try to give you an account of how she spent the money.

5. She keeps boundaries with your friends and doesn't try to compare you with them. Rather, she would look out for that friend whom she observes has your best interests at heart, and encourage you to stay close to him.

6. She will not use sex as a weapon in the relationship, neither would she use it as a bargaining chip.

7. She actively gives you updates on how her day went, and she doesn't come to your house with her phone on silent mode or airplane mode.

8. She will try to abide by how you like her to dress, and she'll listen to you when you caution her about certain behavior that you do not like.

9. She'll actively want you to know her siblings and show interest in and respect for your siblings as well.

10. She'll not hold back if you ask her to lend you money, if she has it. But you, the man, must keep to your words when paying her back.

11. She'll bend many rules for you, but you should not take undue advantage of it.

12. She'll stress you sometimes, and test you in as many ways as possible. She's doing all that to see how well you can lead her, and how well you can control your emotions or anger.

13. She'll make mistakes. But you should use it as a teaching moment for her. If you don't judge her too harshly, she'll start to listen to you more. When you make a woman trust you with her vulnerability, she'll overlook some of your excesses.

14. She'll actively seek your validation and yours alone; whatever you say is good for her, she will accept it. And she won't care what the world says or feels about her.

15. She will not force you to be religious, but she will actively observe whether you respect God, because a man without God may not be a good leader.

If you have a lady that can do at least 10 out of the 15, you may have found your wife.

And remember, when you choose your wife, you have chosen your destiny.

End.

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

@jon_d_doe The moment you married your wife, she's your total responsibilities

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

Your wife is your responsibility as a man

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

If your wife is always asking you for money to buy something as little or cheap as pads or money to make her hair.

Please know that anyday fortune smiles on your wife's account, even as low as N500k, she'll not see you as useful to her anymore.

You're a wicked husband.

End.

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

@jon_d_doee The problem is what's the South African and Nigerian Government doing about this. The just kept silence

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

@jon_d_doe 🤣😂🤣😂

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

@jon_d_doe Daddy, you have said it all

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

@jon_d_doe Congratulations 👏

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

@jon_d_doe The difference is the value. Peter Obi share value relating to societal problems while the other is posting pictures of the countries he went to for conferences with zero thinking

[Simon David @Simon_davv]

@jon_d_doee I had a cousin who gave birth to one. The girl has been laying on the ground since birth.

She's 12 years now