To all like 3-4 of my new followers! Please understand this is my talk shit space and my lil hiding spot! Lol if you see me bugging in any way just act like a true New Yorker and keep on scrolling 😂
I was today years old when I learned:
If you feel it in your chest, it's fear.
If you feel it in your stomach, it's intuition.
If you feel it in your head, it's anger.
If you feel it in your muscles, it's anxiety.
If you feel it in your mouth, it's disgust.
If you feel it in your throat, it's sadness.
If you feel it in your face, it's shame.
If you feel it throughout your body, it's happiness.
Just because you don’t cheat doesn’t mean you’d make a good partner. Most of ya’ll don't realize you're Inconsiderate. Unappreciative. Insecure. Manipulative. Lack empathy. Have poor communication skills & still harboring emotional trauma from your past.
I have to accept what was shown to me over and over again. There was no emotional support. I did not know or truly understand you but I did my best and I wanted to know you so I could love you but I’m not sure you would’ve done the same for me or even let me.
I've realised that my absence isn’t really felt, nor my presence necessary. I am a choice that wasn’t made, and I can’t be mad at that. I guess I can be upset, but only inwardly. Only quietly, to myself. Let it be. You can’t change what you mean to someone.
Ppl LEAVE EVERY TIME IT GETS UNCOMFORTABLE. You don’t want peace. You want control. The moment somebody asks questions, needs clarity, or holds you accountable, now you need space. But space isn’t growth when you only use it to dodge hard conversations.
My therapist told me:
People's negative traits are usually the opposite of their love languages.
Not asking for help.....Acts of Service
Isolating…..Quality Time
Avoidance……..Physical Touch
Impulsive Shopping......Gift Giving
Shutting down .….Words of Affirmation
nobody talks about the angry stage of healing. the rage you feel when you realize how much and how long you were taken advantage of. the absolute disgust you feel towards those people that mislead you. it comes in waves, sometimes you’ll feel healed and then it suddenly hits you
Men aren’t confused… they know exactly what they’re doing. They know when they’re inconsistent, when they’re giving the bare minimum, and when they’re playing games. They just hope you like them enough to accept the BULLSHIT
If you want to see who someone really is, hold them accountable, gently with love. Then watch. Avoidant ppl don’t hate confrontation, they hate reflection. They’ll twist, deflect, disappear. Emotional intelligence isn’t how deep they talk,it’s how they respond when they’re seen.