i particularly feel sad when people gave all their heart once, but were left heartbroken.
and then they read this, and rewire themselves to the 'cool' 'oh yeah let's see I just wanna lav myself'. Please don't lose hope.
Just bec of one failure/heartbreak. Everything that you give; will always come back to you. In some form. Don't stop loving- ever. <3
the “having a boyfriend is embarrassing” discourse is just the latest symptom of a chronically avoidant culture where sincerity is cringe. no wonder so many people are lonely
please bring back lovers
i'm in love with this quote:
"if you're persistent, you'll get it. if you're consistent, you'll keep it. and if you're grateful, you'll attract more of it."
A shift I'm seeing in women once they hit 30:
Previously: Hustler. Super ambitious. Will do anything to be the best.
Now: Actively don’t want to sacrifice peace for a promotion. Learning how much is "enough". Prioritising peace and working for travel, leisure, hobbies, and enjoying the present. Investing to be work optional
What you most fall in love with in the beginning stages of a romance is the projection of your own soul that you have cast onto the other person.
In order for love to survive past this stage, you have to withdraw that projection and learn how to love the person for the ordinary, mortal, flawed, human they are.
Often, when the romantic phase fades (as it inevitably will), people believe that they have fallen "out of love" with that person, but really they have fallen "out of a projection.”
You expected someone outside of you to live your soul life for you, to give your life ultimate meaning; but really that task was a journey you needed to take within the depths of your being all along.
Watched a recent interview of Kareena Kapoor on Hollywood Reporter. It is not common to hear Bollywood celebrities say profound things and Kareena is not the most articulate person but every time she talks about her marriage she ends up dropping the most beautiful nuggets of love and wisdom.
“I think the best thing I could’ve done was to be married. I feel like I am doing my best work, I’m a better person, I feel I am much more relaxed, everything all because of the fact that there is this human relationship that I hold very close to my heart.”
Good relationships can be catalysts for personal growth and transformation. It is not the only way to evolve into a happier, better person but it is definitely one way to get there. It has happened for Kareena and it shows.
As a therapist, I want to tell you: “You loved him because love is in you. You had fun because you are fun. You felt happy because you are a happy person. You gave your all because that is who you are. You have a really beautiful way of loving, and you are going to be okay.”
I am so bullish on the real world.
Group events. Cookouts. Sports. Parties. Animals. Music festivals. Phoneless dinners. Co-living centers. Healing centers. Retreat centers. Beautiful views. Group adventures.
These things light me up. Tech, ai, and materialism continue to disguest me more every day.
The pendulum has swung too far. A small group of soulless nerds will continue to obsess over ai, automation, effiency, and the intellect. But those of us connected to our hearts and spirits are becoming disgusted by it. We want real, and we want human.
Expect a huge countersurge of irl businesses and events in the next few years.
Woman to Woman: I don't care that your entire bloodline traumatized you. I don't care that your boyfriend cheated on you. When you go out in this world, I want you to tell everyone and their mother how amazing your family is. How amazing of a friend circle you have. How you have an entire support system back at home. The moment these people see that you are bleeding, you become an easy target. Everyone out there is a shark. The moment they see that you don't have a support system, you become the target. They will eat you up. They will eat you up. especially if you work in corporate or if you're an entrepreneur, you never let people see that you don't have a support system. You have a loving family. You have amazing friends. You have an amazing partner. I don't care. Lie. Lie like your life depends on it because it does.
@huuuhhx I guess everything goes wrong and disappoints you. When it no longer belongs in your life, you feel DISAPPOINTED. AND otherwise, you just find ways to show up.