MALCOLM

Consistency and focus 💯

[YabaLeftOnline @yabaleftonline]

The moment a bride was given a task to make her husband laugh and win ₦1 million, but she almost failed until her father intervened.

[HONITEL👑 @HonitelHQ]

1. I will not apologise to you just because I want peace to reign when you are the one who wronged me. I’d rather lose the relationship. If you cannot hold yourself accountable, you are not the person for me.

2. I do not tolerate disrespect. Not even as a joke. Especially not as a joke.

3. If you have a problem with cooking for your partner, I’m not the person for you.

4. You don’t ever have to worry about cooking because it’s one of the things I genuinely enjoy doing. However, this doesn’t negate what I said in number three.

5. Unless you are deep into fitness like me and are posting your gains, you cannot be posting your bum on social media. I’m not a “mature” boyfriend.

6. My obligation is to treat you right and love you softly, genuinely, and intentionally. But if you cannot reciprocate that energy, I’ll leave you.

7. You cannot have a male bestie under my regime.

8. Dates are important to me. I will initiate, plan, and pay for most of them, but you must also initiate, plan, and pay for some dates. I’m a baby boy too.

9. If I tell you that something you did hurt me, don’t tell me it’s not that deep. I will not let you gaslight or manipulate me into questioning my feelings. Don’t dismiss my feelings, ever.

10. Cheating is a deal-breaker. I will not forgive you for it.

11. Access to phones is important to me. This doesn’t mean I’m interested in going through your phone, but if you suddenly start guarding it around me, I’ll assume you’re hiding something.

12. I don’t want to hear about what your ex did for you. If you keep bringing him or your exes up unnecessarily, I will leave you.

13. I like sex, and I’m considerate. I also understand that I don’t own your body. However, if my sexual needs are consistently neglected, I’ll leave you.

14. Even when you are angry, talk to me softly. We can disagree without being cruel to each other. Don’t raise your voice at me, talk to me like a decent adult.

15. If you need a break from the relationship, please don’t come back.

16. Don’t use a breakup as a threat, a weapon, or a joke whenever we have a minor misunderstanding. If you tell me you want to end the relationship, I will respect your decision, and there will be no coming back from it.

[MALCOLM @Small_spart]

@its_Miguel04 @yabaleftonline 🤣🤣

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

One of the biggest problem of marital infidelity, is carrying infection you know nothing about. It is bad enough that you subject your partner to series of tests they ordinarily shouldn't be taking, which takes its own mental stress and financial cost.

If it is positive, you alter their lives forever. I understand the anger.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Dear newly or young married men,

Your kitchen and pot of food belongs to you and your wife alone.

No one from your family or hers has the right to go into her kitchen to either cook or dish food by themselves unless your wife permits them to.

If you do not allow your wife to create that boundary in her matrimonial home, you'd be causing alot of issues.

And your siblings would not give her the respect that she deserves.

Once you marry a wife, the relationship that you ang your siblings have and how you were sharing things should reduce in your matrimonial home.

Your matrimonial home is not your father's house.

End.

[Technical Ben @TechnicalBben]

Once you learn how to shop directly from China, E.g Temù or shien your wardrobe changes completely. Call me cheap I don't care I ain't rich, I don't do fraud.😭

It's knowing what to search for.

Here's my style after making plenty of mistakes.

1. T-shirts:

Skip 100% polyester unless you're buying gym wear.

Instead, search:
• 100% Cotton
• Combed Cotton
• Heavyweight Cotton
• 240-300 GSM Cotton
• Premium Cotton
• Mercerized Cotton

The heavier the GSM, the thicker and more premium the shirt usually feels.

2. Jeans:

Denim Jeans
Temu is surprisingly good for denim if you know what to search.

Search:
• Denim Jeans
• Cotton Denim
• Raw Denim
• Selvedge Denim (if available)
• 98% Cotton + 2% Elastane
• 99% Cotton

Avoid jeans with high polyester content. The more cotton, the better they'll age and feel.

3. Body-hug clothing:

Search:
• Ribbed Knit
• Modal
• Viscose Blend
• Cotton-Spandex Blend

They hold their shape much better than cheap polyester.

4. Hoodies
Search:
• 400 GSM
• French Terry
• Cotton Fleece
• Heavyweight Hoodie

5. Chains
Search:
• 316L Stainless Steel
• Titanium Steel
• PVD Gold Plated
• Vacuum Plated

These are far more resistant to fading than ordinary fashion jewelry.

6. Earrings
Search:
• 925 Sterling Silver
• 316L Stainless Steel
• Hypoallergenic
• Moissanite (if you're buying stones)

7. Scarves
Search:
• Mulberry Silk
• Silk Blend
• Cashmere Blend
• Wool Blend
• Viscose

Avoid the shiny, thin polyester scarves if you're after a premium look.

8. Loafers
Search:
• Genuine Leather
• Cow Leather
• Full Grain Leather (rare but worth looking for)
• Rubber Outsole

9. Sneakers
Search:
• Rubber Outsole
• EVA Midsole
• Breathable Mesh
• Leather Upper
• Stitched Sole

Pictures lie a lot

The description usually tells the truth.

Here's how I shop:

1. Read the material composition before anything else.

2. Sort by Most Orders or Best Selling, not cheapest.

3. Only buy products with lots of reviews or pictures or even better when a Nigerian has purchased it before they always tell the truth.

4. Read the 1-star reviews first. They'll tell you what the seller won't.

5. Look at customer photos, not the product photos.

6. Check the weight of the product. Better quality clothing is often heavier.

7. Read the size chart. Don't assume your Nigerian size matches.

8. If the title has words like "luxury," "premium," or "designer" but the material is 100% polyester, not everything but still move on.

Your best friend isn't the product picture.

It's the material, the reviews, and the customer photos.

That's how you separate the gems from the junk.

I hope this help.

Things are to expensive for a country this poor.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

PCOS has nothing to do with age.

It has nothing to do with abortions.

It has nothing to do with having multiple sexual partners.

We need to educate ourselves & stop trying to shame women who are suffering from it.

Men & women have almost equal rate of fertility issues.

End.

[Unfiltered @quotesdaily100]

9 THINGS EVERY PARENT NEEDS TO HEAR:

1. Never fight with your partner in front of your children. They cannot unhear what they were never supposed to hear.
2. Never compare your child to another. You will win the argument and lose their confidence.
3. Never make your child carry your emotional weight. They are not your therapist and that role will damage them.
4. Never say "because I said so" as a final answer. Children who are never given reasons grow up unable to think for themselves.
5. Never dismiss what feels small to you but big to them. How you handle the small things teaches them what to bring you.
6. Never stop telling them you are proud. They will spend the rest of their life looking for that feeling somewhere else if you do.
7. Never forget that they are watching everything. Not what you say but what you do when you think no one is looking.
8. Never parent the child you wanted instead of the one you have. They will spend their whole life feeling like they are not enough.
9. Never be too proud to apologise to your child. The parent who admits fault raises a child who can do the same.

[𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞𝐫 @ThePreserverofU]

LESSONS TO INSTILL IN YOUR KIDS:

1) If you're thankful, show it.
2) If you learn something, teach others.
3) If you see wrong, take a stance.
4) If you're confused, ask questions.
5) If you love someone, tell them.
6) If you're stuck, ask for help.
7) If you made a mistake, apologize.
8) If you trip, get back up.
9) If someone needs help, help them.

[YabaLeftOnline @yabaleftonline]

What’s the difference?

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

If your wife is still asking you for money to buy her sanitary pads, airtime or to make her hair, you're not a kind husband.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

To avoid this, you must always give your wife separate money from what you give her as monthly upkeep for the home.

So that you can justifiably rebuke her if she asks you for money for those basic female things.

It doesn't matter if she's working.

She's your wife.

Give your wife money, even if she's making her own money.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

As a young man working legitimately hard.

It's always sweet to have that feeling that your friends that you're hanging out with, cannot dictate your time.

If you're married, you don't need them to go back home to your lovely wife.

Because you have your own car.

End.

[Unfiltered @quotesdaily100]

Parts of You That Were Never Inherited:

1. Your name was given to you, but who you become with it is entirely your decision.
2. The beliefs you absorbed as a child are not permanent unless you choose to keep carrying them.
3. Confidence is not something you are born with, it is something you build one small action at a time.
4. The way your family handled conflict does not have to be the way you handle conflict.
5. You can love where you come from without letting it decide where you end up.
6. Self worth that depends on inherited approval will always feel borrowed, not owned.
7. The labels people gave you growing up are opinions, not facts about who you are.
8. Healing is the process of unlearning what you were taught and relearning what actually fits you.
9. Your values mean nothing until you live them when no one inherited them with you.
10. The personality you show the world is shaped daily by your choices, not fixed at birth.
11. You did not choose your starting point, but you do choose every direction after it.
12. Comparing your timeline to someone else's inheritance of privilege or pain will only blur your own path.
13. Identity built on what others expect of you will collapse the moment they stop watching.
14. The discipline, patience, and resilience you have now were earned, not handed down.
15. You can break a cycle without blaming the people who started it.
16. Who you are at thirty is built from a thousand small decisions, not the home you grew up in.
17. The most stable identity is the one you constructed on purpose, not the one life assigned to you.

[Ghost Writer ✍️ @Prezain_LJ]

Neatness shouldn’t be a gender thing. As a man, take your hygiene seriously. It’s not just about wearing perfume and smelling good when you step out.

Keep yourself well-groomed. Shower at least once or twice daily, use deodorant, brush your teeth morning and night, and don’t ignore your tongue or bad breath. Trim your nails regularly, keep your hair neat, and don’t wear clothes that are stained, crumpled, or smell like they’ve been worn too many times.

Change your underwear daily, and your bedsheets regularly. Wash your towels often. Laundry shouldn’t be something you delay until you have nothing left to wear.

Your environment matters too. Keep your room and bathroom clean. Sweep, mop, and take out trash before it starts smelling. Wash your dishes immediately after eating. Don’t let your kitchen sink become a breeding ground for dirt and insects.

Your place shouldn’t look like where a mad person is staying, in such disarray. A man who is disciplined in his hygiene shows discipline in other areas of life.

[HONITEL👑 @HonitelHQ]

This thing they say about how we experience people differently, and how even siblings experience the same parents differently, is very true.

Sometimes, you look at how your younger sibling talks back to your mom, the excuses she makes for them, and the things they get away with, and you are in utter dismay.

The same parent who ran a strict regime during your time is now so soft with your younger siblings.

Growing up, you couldn't go out without planning a believable lie to tell your parents just to convince them to let you leave the house. And you dared not stay out for too long. Now, your siblings simply disappear from the house or dress up and casually inform your parents that they're going to see a friend and will be back soon, and your parents don't even question them.

Sometimes, it feels like you and your siblings were raised by completely different people.

And this is also how it is with human beings generally.

That ex who broke your heart is the best thing that has ever happened to someone else.

That friend who didn't rate you, who treated you poorly, is someone else's best friend. Someone knows them as the most intentional person they've ever met.

It also applies to how people see you.

There are people who will say you are a sweet person, and they'll be right. There are others who will say you are nonchalant, difficult, or even impossible to deal with, and they'll also be right.

We have different and unique experiences with people.

You are not as bad as some people say you are, and you are not as good as you think you are.

You are a human being with emotional bias, preferences, wounds, expectations, and blind spots. That is why you can never treat everyone equally, and neither can everyone experience you the same way.

We truly experience people differently.

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

I never had an uncle or Godfather who randomly sent me money or whom I could ask for money.

I want to be that Uncle who spoils his nieces and nephews, and whom they can confide in. I want to be the Godfather who spoils his Godchildren and whom.they can confide in.

I'm always kind and generous to kids around me and I hope they grow up one day and remember there was a very kind Uncle Wisdom who was always good to them and made their childhood memorable.

[Unfiltered @quotesdaily100]

WHEN TO SEND CERTAIN EMAILS:

1. Job application — Tuesday to Thursday, 8–10am
2. Follow-up — exactly 5 business days later, morning
3. Cold outreach — Tuesday or Wednesday, never Friday
4. Complaint — after sleeping on it, never in the moment
5. Salary negotiation — after a win, not out of desperation
6. Resignation — Monday morning, never Friday afternoon
7. Thank you note — within 24 hours or not at all
8. Bad news — direct, morning, never end of day Friday
9. Asking a favor — after you've given one
10. Newsletter — same day every week, train the habit
11. Checking in on someone — randomly, when you actually think of them, not on their birthday alone
12. Apology — once, clearly, without waiting for the perfect moment

[Boluwatife @TEEPHTREND]

After giving birth, a woman's internal wounds take six months to heal, 12 months for physical recovery, two years for hormonal balance, and up to five years to rediscover her identity. Relationships frequently fail during this time due to a lack of understanding. Be kind and patient with new mothers; they are facing more challenges than it appears.

[Freyy @Freyy_is]

a lot of people have never heard of the “4 Horsemen” in relationships.

they’re basically patterns that research suggests can predict relationship breakdown with high accuracy if they go unchecked.

1. criticism

this is when conflict stops being about the issue and starts

[MALCOLM @Small_spart]

@Faiths_miracle @jon_d_doe Commando keh 😂😂