Keep your problems smaller than your life. A flat tire is a flat tire. A bad meeting is a bad meeting. A canceled flight is just an extra two hours. These things become catastrophes when you let them. But they stay manageable when you remember the depth of your real life- the people you love, the work you care about, the beautiful years still ahead. Zoom out. Fit your reaction to the size of the problem.
Double standards don't exist, but...
"You're a girl" is a reprimand.
"He's a boy" is an excuse.
"She was drunk" makes it worse.
"He was drunk" makes it understandable.
"She puts her career first is aflaw.
"He puts his career first" is ambition.
"She's 40" means "already"
"Heis 40° means "only."