@MelReneeStyles Real talk. Alone is hard but better in the end because yoou can actually reflect and work on yourself and posture yourself to be the best you when you are ready to be back on the market. It helps in not taking your ptsd into the ext relationship
In a nutshell. People will think they’ve defeated their ego and the whole time you just being present is holding a mirror up to them and showing themselves things they do not like within Self.
People can absolutely hurt you, disappoint you, and treat you unfairly. But at some point, you also have to examine your own decisions, the patterns you continued to repeat, and the behaviors you kept making exceptions for. Acknowledging how someone wronged you is necessary, but so is taking accountability for how you responded, what you tolerated, and why you continued to participate in a dynamic that was hurting you. Their behavior is their responsibility. Your healing requires understanding your own patterns, too.