cold/mess

I wish i could leave you my love
But my heart, is a mess
My days they begin with your name
And nights end with your breath

[cold/mess @SohaTazz]

@jervyfermin Its the mindset that is wrong. Relationship is not supposed to work on its own. You (you in general) did not work on it.

[cold/mess @SohaTazz]

@jervyfermin leave the other shocked/in coma, with the memories, clothes, perfumes, etc. N even then do it right. U have to understand y Alec Benjamin said "Could you find a way to let me down slowly? A little sympathy, I hope you can show me". Remember: relationship is a clockwork of gears.

[Idil Ahmed @idillionaire]

You’re headed where you’re meant to be.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Codependency slowly disconnects us from our authentic self and creates resentment.

Here's why:

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

People with childhood trauma tend to have fast and intense friendships relationships. Desperate for the love they didn’t get from a parent, they attach quickly— often missing red flags. Healing is about slowly building trust over surface intimacy.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Our personality is not something set in stone or hard-wired. Personality is created based on child environment and first attachments (relationships.) At any age, at any time, we can unlearn and evolve the traits that make us ourselves.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Our younger developmental parts (inner child) fears losing our autonomy or being in a helpless situation, so we attempt to assert our dominance to stay safe.

The issue is: these dynamics block authentic emotional connection

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

It's helpful to understand that power struggles are common when we felt helpless in childhood.

If we had parent figures who: shamed us, engaged in harsh punishment, emotionally abandoned us, invalidated our reality , etc. we attempt to gain power as adults

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Red flags don’t feel like red flags, when they feel like home. We repeat our childhood dynamics because they feel most familiar— and what’s most familiar feels most comfortable to the subconscious mind.

[King ☥ @istayglowin]

lack of communication leaves too much room for the imagination

[cold/mess @SohaTazz]

@Theholisticpsyc 🇵🇰

[cold/mess @SohaTazz]

@TFlair4 @Theholisticpsyc I would agree to this and the op, both

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

People’s behavior is a reflection of how they feel about themselves.

[Nedra Glover Tawwab @NedraTawwab]

Stop putting your needs last. You deserve to be at the top of your to-do list.

[cold/mess @SohaTazz]

@oldhoyden @Theholisticpsyc @JustSpeakinOut Yes please