Because yall don’t understand idioms no more. It mean you can’t have it both ways. It don’t mean you literally can’t have cake. If you eat da cake it’s gone which means you can either eat da cake or not eat da cake.
I dont date men without fathers, and I don’t date men with kids. I don’t date men in addiction. I don’t date men that hate women. I don’t date ugly men. And I don’t date men that can’t lead better than me. Thinking my singleness is ever a man’s decision is where you fcked up.