I respect you so much for waking up this conversation. A lot of friendships are hostile and competitive because there is this need for a friend with a little bit more experience to look down and consistently lecture their other friend just for existing and experiencing life in-
Maybe it’s also misogynistic on your end to not see the ways women are destructive to their female friends in ways men are not. This isn’t to say I don’t value my female friendship more than my male ones. Trust me I will prefer women always. But I’m not going to act like the trauma I’ve endured from a lot of my past female relationships does not stick with me to this day. It doesn’t turn me off but women should be allowed to have the safe space to talk about it without yall getting your panties into a fuss perpetuating the same issue they complain about. Yall never want to learn the truth
i love women but yall love pretending you aren’t extreme social judgers/ostracizers towards women who are a little “off” bc of trauma or neurodivergence or simply not adhering to patriarchal beauty standards or behavior modifications. look in the mirror and ask urself why that is
“During the darkest days of the AIDS crisis we buried our friends in the morning, we protested in the afternoon, and we danced all night, and it was the dance that kept us in the fight because it was the dance we were fighting for.” – Dan Savage
i had 1 job where i was like this is a dayjob, no friends. like 8 months in, i made a friend anyway because i have good vibes and we were traveling together a lot. he let me know our manager was blaming me for delays on a project i wasnt even on to upper management
I used to think I was shy until I realized that I was just spending most of my time with abusive people who I couldn’t be myself around without being harmed for it.
Se creen un partidazo porque trabajan y hacen ejercicio.
Pero la estabilidad no es solo productividad.
También es saber comunicarse, mostrarse vulnerables, sostener conversaciones incómodas, gestionar emociones y tener responsabilidad afectiva
Do not talk about discernment if you cannot recognise when someone needs compassion more than criticism and correction. There is a time to guide and a time to simply hold space for a person who is hurting. Wisdom knows the difference. And kindness knows it even faster.
hey as a heads up if you attempt to destroy your inner self it affects your relationships and people because it’s hard for them to form meaningful connections with an empty husk
people sometimes want to make the shame they feel for what they did to you out to be some kind of “harm” on par with what they did. which i always find interesting
We’ve lost the art of just being like “hey man that was kinda uncool.” Everything has to be the biggest deal ever and people have to be groveling begging for forgiveness and apologizing profusely for every little thing. Sometimes a “yeah that was uncool my fault guys” is enough
Cuando pusieron la ciclovía aquí en Eduardo Molina, la gente originaria que tenía sus talleres mecánicos, vulcanizadoras y otras talacherías, se opusieron. Yo me acuerdo que me enojé con ellos, ¿cómo podían estar en contra de una ciclovía?
Fueron pasando los años. Poco a poco+