stef 🫴🇮🇪

pray like a lover, not like a beggar

[stef 🫴🇮🇪 @stefaesthesia]

I built a twitter bot that will create a market on @ManifoldMarkets when tagged (and clarify criteria when necessary), to put stakes on the absurd "predictions" people throw around on this site.

lmk if you want to help me test it and make sure the backend guidelines are solid

[stef 🫴🇮🇪 @stefaesthesia]

"She gave you her best years, bore your children, stood by you..." okay, but faithfulness isn't a debt you owe someone as if it's some repayment for their youth or their time or their body. Character isn't paying a debt, it's keeping your word because it's who you are. Your character is who you choose to be when no one is keeping score, or no one is looking, or there are no repercussions no matter what you choose.

Being good because you owe it to someone or because you're afraid of the outcome is a child's morality. It's as immature as putting your own desires and impulses over your commitments.

Any person is only as good as their word.

[stef 🫴🇮🇪 @stefaesthesia]

idk what the reality of their marriage is and I don't think it's any of our business to pry, but I do think if you're able to lie to and betray your spouse there likely isn't much in the world that's truly sacred to you and that says a lot about your character in ways that matter particularly for people with tremendous power or influence

[Moral Philosophy @ML_Philosophy]

Give the world the kind of person you wish existed.

[Adele @adelltells]

Jeff Bezos's divorce cost him 4% of Amazon. His ex-wife MacKenzie Scott walked away with $38.3 billion in stock and then started giving it away.

They were married for 25 years and have four children. She was there when Amazon was just getting started.

The divorce was finalized in 2019. Her share was about 4% of the company, and it's still called the most expensive divorce ever.

Then the pandemic sent Amazon stock up. For a while her fortune passed $66 billion and she was the richest woman in the world.

After the divorce she signed the Giving Pledge, a promise to give away at least half of her wealth.

By 2025 she had given more than $19 billion to over 2,000 organizations, with no strings on how they spend it.

In 2022 Bezos told CNN he plans to give away most of his money. He still hasn't signed the Giving Pledge.

[Eric Umansky @ericuman]

NEW: Trump “loves” our vets. I dug into reality

At Trump's gutted VA:

Shortstaffed hospitals have stopped surgeries for heart attacks

They've stopped radiation for cancer

A vet w/ burst, gangrenous appendix couldn't get surgery bc OR was closed

https://t.co/zATnKvt3eo

[stef 🫴🇮🇪 @stefaesthesia]

@traskjd You've always been way ahead of the curve

[stef 🫴🇮🇪 @stefaesthesia]

Science is wild, man.

[Grant Addison @jgrantaddison]

Insane decision. Every great element of this movie is outdated: dial-up, email, book stores, talking to strangers, men and women dating

[stef 🫴🇮🇪 @stefaesthesia]

@s4hvm Most people wouldn't trade love and loyalty and emotional safety for some amount of money, anyone saying otherwise is deranged.

[Nigerian Princess @LizzosDietician]

Both his "kids" are watching their loyal, loving mom getting ridiculed as ugly and people justifying their dad's betrayal while their family blows up in front of the world and then have to read stupid commentary framing their public humiliation as "re-experiencing his youth" because he "fulfilled 99% of expectations" what kind of clown math even is this?

If "don't publicly humiliate your spouse for a honey pot" is 1% bonus credit to you, please get fitted for a chastity belt for the safety of the general public, stat

[stef 🫴🇮🇪 @stefaesthesia]

idk what the reality of their marriage is and I don't think it's any of our business to pry, but I do think if you're able to lie to and betray your spouse there likely isn't much in the world that's truly sacred to you and that says a lot about your character in ways that matter particularly for people with tremendous power or influence

[Ted @TedPillows]

Don't cheat on your wife.

[Alyssa 🌻 @alyssaleann]

The vows most of us take upon entering a lifelong monogamous arrangement explicitly include the phrase “for rich or for poor” — it is so incredibly scummy to make excuses for a man ignoring his vows because his net worth got too big and broke his brain!

[微風小月 @lamtha0]

剛刷推看到有人說這位中國女性黃樂是已婚身份。本來我只唏噓一個女人用自己的身體與美色當武器去達到目的，自己物化自己何必呢。但如果她是已婚身份，反而讓我看不起。畢竟無論有沒有宗教信仰，婚姻都是神聖的，兩個已婚的人婚外情還這麼高調，無法遵守對婚姻的承諾，說什麼話都不具備可信度了。
2/3

[Cartoons Hate Her! @CartoonsHateHer]

I have no way of knowing their situation (maybe he’s cheated before and she didn’t care) but it is upsetting to many women that you can give your prime years to a man, be loyal to him, and if he becomes successful people will laugh at you if he’s unfaithful.

[stef 🫴🇮🇪 @stefaesthesia]

This. Nothing to add 🧡

[Halston @halstonvalencia]

This is going to be one of the most vulnerable and longest tweets I’ve ever posted. Something has been weighing on my heart for quite some time.

Every time I speak about marriage, loyalty, or the belief that cheating is wrong, I’m met with men telling me infidelity is inevitable. That men aren’t naturally monogamous, that a man can sleep with another woman and still love his wife, and every day, I see more people defending betrayal as though it’s simply part of life, both online and irl.

My parents aren’t together because of infidelity. I grew up without the example of a healthy, loving marriage, and I often wonder how different my life might have been.

How many insecurities might I have been spared? How many difficult moments would have been easier with a strong father to lean on? How different would my understanding of love and trust be if I’d grown up watching a man faithfully love my mother?

Instead, I grew up with the consequences of a man who repeatedly chose lust and momentary gratification over the family he was supposed to cherish.

I don’t think people realize how much a child can lose because a grown man refuses to govern his desires.

Perhaps that’s why, as a woman whose heart longs for marriage and a beautiful family, these conversations are almost unbearable for me.

Will we ever be enough?

Not just enough to marry or raise children with, but enough to be someone’s absolute dream girl? The woman he looks at and cannot imagine wanting anyone else? The woman he continues to choose because there’s nowhere else he’d rather be?

Is it really unreasonable to want to be loved like that?

I don’t want to spend my marriage wondering whether my husband secretly longs for other women. I don’t want to be told that infidelity is a biological reality I must accept. I want to adore a man and be adored in return. To feel safe giving him every vulnerable part of myself.

And what makes this even more painful is seeing infidelity within Christianity. Men who profess to love Jesus, who know Scripture, who make vows before God, only to betray them. Where is the fear of God? Where is the reverence for marriage?

I’m sitting on a plane right now, sobbing as I write this. there’s an ache in my heart I cannot describe. I’ve been trying to compose myself, but the tears keep coming.

Maybe I’m too sensitive and maybe I shouldn’t allow it to affect me this much. But these conversations have been breaking my heart because they remind me of the little girl I was, and the family I wish I’d had.

Deep, deep down, I’m just a lover girl.

I believe in loving one man for the rest of my life. In being his favorite person, his best friend, his dream girl. In growing old together, knowing that through every season, we continued choosing each other.

And it hurts terribly to think that a woman could give a man her entire heart, dedicate her life to him and their children, and he could still want another woman.

His unfaithfulness doesn’t mean she wasn’t enough. But it’s difficult not to ask why the woman he promised his life to wasn’t enough for him to remain faithful.

I’ll probably take a short break from Twitter. I’ll still be around for earnings and a few scheduled posts this week, but I need to step away from these conversations.

Call me weak or whatever you want, but I owe it to myself, my future husband, and to the little girl who grew up wishing things had been different, to take a break to protect the tender, hopelessly romantic part of my heart that still believes in beautiful, faithful, lifelong love.

I really don’t want the cynicism of the world to take that away from me.

With love,
H

Prov. 4:23

[stef 🫴🇮🇪 @stefaesthesia]

It’s a tragedy that we’ve shaped modern society around a disproportionate devotion of energy to hierarchy and measurable “success,” often at the expense of our attention to one another.

All else in life is inconsequential without continuously cultivating strong character and embodying virtuous principles. Utopia, to me, is a society where everyone believes this and lives it.

How you are is who you are.

[Pope Leo XIV @Pontifex]

When being just and honest comes at a price, pay it. When forgiving seems like a defeat, forgive. When everyone tells you to think of yourselves first, do not be afraid to put yourselves in the last place. Be willing to give up time, money, comfort and plans to serve others. May those who see you find themselves asking: “Why do they live in this way? Where do they get this freedom? Why do they love one another so much?” #ApostolicJourney #Uruguay

[Dustin Messer @dustinwmesser]

Ross Douthat leaving the NYT was worth it just so we could hear him begin a question to Donald Trump:

“A hundred years from now, while your working your situation out in purgatory...”

[Quinn Nelson @SnazzyLabs]

Twitter replies have taught me the following about marriage tonight:

1. Not cheating on your wife is apparently super difficult
2. If you’re not cheating on your wife, you’re apparently a cuck that is being cheated on
3. As long as you’re rich, whatever you do is cool

Great.

[stef 🫴🇮🇪 @stefaesthesia]

@SaintRPh oh this is great, nice work 🧇

[Dr. Annie Andrews @AnnieAndrewsMD]

Herpes is forever.
JD Vance doesn’t have to be.