Stefani Ruper

Communications strategist & writer
Supporting democracy, public discourse, and civic engagement
PhD (Oxford) | Author, The Certainty Cure

[Stefani Ruper @StefaniRuper]

Hello all - if you're in the Triangle area, join us on Thursday!

Deep Talk Table — A Dinner Gathering for All 🎉

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[Stefani Ruper @StefaniRuper]

Winning arguments doesn’t #savedemocracy.
Building trust does.
I wrote in The Hill about why I stopped going home to “win” Thanksgiving — and what happened when I chose to listen instead.
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The Certainty Cure is live — and the Kindle edition is 50% off ($4.99) today only.
It’s a book about how our addiction to being right fuels division — and how humility + curiosity can heal it.
Grab your copy before midnight 👇
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My work focuses on releasing the need to be right for the sake of our political discourse - but we may gain the most in our personal relationships.
Certainty feels like control.
Curiosity is what actually creates connection.
🎙️ Listen (w @drzoeshaw):

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Been thinking a lot about everyone heading home for the holidays.
I used to go home and pick fights that nearly destroyed my family. I reassured myself by silently chanting, “It’s for justice.”
Ten years of fighting—and studying philosophy—later, I realized I was doing the opposite.
I was fraying trust, the very thing democracy needs to survive.
What happens if we stop going home to win arguments, and start going home to listen and learn?
I wonder.

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After years of research, writing, and rethinking everything I thought I knew about truth…
My new book, The Certainty Cure, comes out Nov 20.
What will our democracy become if we stop trying to win arguments—and start trying to learn?
Preorder: https://t.co/Fqe3MQP0fw

[Plough Quarterly @Plough]

“In a culture that equates strength with conviction, Weil offers us a different strength: the strength to remain tender in uncertainty. To be patient with mystery. To trust that faith, too, can grow in the soil of doubt.” @StefaniRuper

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Simone Weil saw doubt not as failure of reverence but its highest expression—a way of staying open to truth as it unfolds.
A path to ever-deepening connection, insight, and love.
My new essay in @Plough explores what I call her “sacred work of doubt.”
🔗 Read it here →

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#SimoneWeil #IntellectualVulnerability #TheCertaintyCure #Faith #Philosophy

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For example, about @charliekirk11, or his shooter, or @jimmykimmel, or when pregnant women began swallowing fistfuls of @tylenol while Harvard scientists were recommending caution, or any of the other wild leaps to conclusions in the last few weeks.

IMHO.

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@mablethemaple Thank You Mable!! I read a small passage every night and just went through Proverbs and know exactly the place. rn I'm in Ecclesiastes and that hits too, if differently! DM me to chat about your hormones, LOL.

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We don’t just fear being wrong because it’s embarrassing.
Being wrong destabilizes our identity, our worldview, our belonging. It shakes the ground beneath us. 🧵

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How a republican girl went off to a liberal east coast school, started picking fights with her dad, then realized his politics weren’t the problem but SHE was — because she wasn’t listening, learning, or loving.

Let’s heal #polarization for real.

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For more ideas on softening certainty, connection, and dialogue across divides, follow along — and watch for excerpts from The Certainty Cure, out this November.

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I didn’t mean to write another book this year.
And honestly, I hesitated to share the thoughts in The Certainty Cure. I knew I’d lose friends and colleagues for saying them out loud.
But at some point, the buck has to stop.
🧵👇

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That’s why I wrote The Certainty Cure.
To show that the way out of polarization isn’t fighting harder.
It’s softening certainty, so love can take root.