Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW

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[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

How are you keeping your children and stepchildren busy this summer?

Here’s a car maintenance idea for them:

Each car washed in household $10
Car wash with detailed dusting and vacuum $15
This is dependent on quality control, of course. 😊

Other ideas?

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Hey parents/stepparents, do you have "Couple Strength"?

Creating LEADERSHIP as a couple is THE MOST IMPORTANT ISSUE in the family & especially in the stepfamily.

Forming a connection AS A FAMILY is key.
RESPECT in front of kids.

Joint purpose= positive/predictable parenting.

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Job Descriptions within the modern blended families:

Most who live in stepfamilies are not clear about anybody else’s contributions and responsibilities within.

Is that true for you?

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Take time out to have dinner with your blended family.

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

In standard psychotherapy the therapist does not give actual solutions.

•In our work, the therapist is an expert consultant with real-life solutions and suggestions.

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Are you a Dad struggling with parenting in a stepfamily?

What to do? Who comes first, the partner or the child?

The couple always comes first 🙂.

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Are you a stepmom struggling with his kids?

Take alone time at least once a week...

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

We urge the stepmother and the biological father to create house rules that they both agree on. No easy task.

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

When you I'm looking for a counselor or coach

Are you looking for a counselor or coach. Check out their background. Are they certified in blended/stepfamily?
I often see advice that is off course. It may urge the stepmother to immediately take charge.

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Honor differences. Often couples have different customs and religions. Talk with the child about the different religious and/or cultural history. It is important that parents explain the meaning and significance of the holidays.

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Holidays: Get close - create an atmosphere. Bake pies and cookies, or have eggnog and popcorn by the fire. Do NOT let the screen be the only warm glow in the room.

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Holidays: Ex's be civil. Holidays are often times for forgiveness and new
beginnings, especially in divorced and stepfamilies. Ex-spouses, be civil,
speak and act respectfully for the well-being of the children.

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

The Holidays: Honor differences. Often couples have different customs and religions. Talk with the child about the different religious and/or cultural history. It is important that parents explain the meaning and significance of the holidays.

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

@DemetriusRasbe4 Welcome to the confounding world of "step."

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

The Holidays: Three little words: Plan, Plan, and Plan. The couple needs to discuss the plan in detail. Map out procedures for arrivals, expected behaviors, dress, manners, chores, seating at dinner and departure times. Check out plans with the ex-spouse.

[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Tips for blending the Stepfamily.

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[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Stepfamily Structure

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[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

The Book: STEPPARENTING Everything You Need To Know
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[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Did you know September 16 is #stepfamilyday? @_Stepfamilyday

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[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Tips for Blending the Stepfamily

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[Jeannette Lofas PhD, LCSW @Stepfamily]

Stepfamily Goals

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