Numerous lifelong professionals (people recognized as exceptional in their fields) have confided in me they regret their careers. Resentment towards the hours, days, years of dedicating all their time and energy to their employer. They’ll always allude to the source of their regret being universal deterioration of their relationships. Relationships with family, friends or even themselves. Years and years of ignoring what truly means a lot to them. Unconsciously “grinding” for decades with the hope of an ultimate better tomorrow. Using future wealth as the driver of sacrifice. Emptiness. Leaning into work as an excuse to abstain from experiences. Internally justifying a lack of presence at every opportunity. Constantly looking forward to the next break. Weeks and weeks. Months and months. Years and years of consistent unconsciousness. Frequently drowning out their inner thoughts with booze. Voices inside them screaming; trying to let them know this isn’t the way. Counter voices depicting scenes of eventual champagne toasts in Santorini. Just have to keep going. Maybe it will get better? Great reviews keep coming in. Bonuses were up this year. My vesting schedule is stacking; do I really want to leave money on the table? Every excuse to avoid how they really feel. Sharing their inner displeasures at every opportunity. Dreams a mere afterthought. Next deal up. Cycle after cycle. Treadmill keeps moving whether they’re on it or not. Finally hit the end and look around for an applause. Goodbye happy hour. Great. No jersey in the rafters. Office cleared in 24 hours. Reduced to a lore. On to the next. See you next time. Oh wait! What? There is none.
Ivan,
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People will go to great extents to earn and defend their money, yet are careless with how they spend their days. This is backwards.
Most are completely fine with burning evening after evening scrolling useless content; week after week sulking at a job they don’t like; weekend after weekend boozing at the same bar. Is this really life?
It’s frightening to sit down and face the reality of how much time we all churn. Calculate hour by hour how much time was taken up by work, reading emails, scrolling socials, watching Netflix, etc. Then, add the time draining out your thoughts with music / podcasts. Subtract time at rest. What’s left? How little time have we spent really living? Experiencing nature, traversing the city, training, catching up with friends, enjoying a meal with family, or how about just being yourself…
How much of our lives are we not aware of losing? How much is consumed with emptiness, day jobs or vices? How little of yourself was truly left to you?
We live as if we are to live forever, yet live so little in the finite time we have.
Most rely on retirement to enjoy the fruits of their labor; let weeks go by in the spirit of grinding; ignore calls from family, yet answer Beth from HR; miss out on trips with friends just to build savings. All in the spirit of rekindling time in the future. Fast forward to then and all your left with is less…
You look back and realize you MAYBE lived ~20% of your entire life. Spent most of the finite time you were allotted unconscious. Forfeited most of the human experience.
Seize back as much of the 80% as you can. It’s senseless not to.
@tommyvonarb Wholeheartedly agree with a seasonal approach to life, but yes sometimes work needs doing. When those days are on the horizon it’s all about a plan, stims and execution. Waking up on a full blown mission.
Still my favorite tweet this month.
Its contents are a phenomenal level setter if you’re too caught up in differentiation for the sake of rebelling. (This frankly use to be a driving force of mine.) But what are we rebelling against? who? what? where? All nonsense. Utilizing awareness for the betterment of yourself, family and close friends does a ways more than curating a personality on dodging seed oils or backing conspiracy theories. Passing judgement for the sake of achieving a fictitious high ground is not “alpha” or “chad.” It’s simply a different brand of kool-aid you happen to like more than the next guy.
Most people are just trying to do their best and simply view the world from a different lens; there’s no benefit in trying to change their prescription. Just keep improving and enjoy the view🍹
To expand on this (and get a little tinfoil hat):
I don't subscribe to the idea that the world is setup for you to fail. That "they" are after you.
I subscribe to the idea that the world is setup for 90% of the population to meander through life. This has nothing to fucking do with you.
Let's say (hypothetically) that there is a small group of elite families that sit around a mahogany table and control the world. Great.
I don't think their goal is to simply rot the brains of everyone and turn the world into shit. That doesn't make sense. Cut them some slack - if they we're smart enough to amass trillions, let's assume they can do some half-decent critical thinking.
Their goal is to maintain power and control. With that, naturally, a small group of people make decisions for a large group of people. What's the easiest way to do this? Make the large group of people easier to control. Duh.
Funny enough, for whatever philosophical reasons you want to conjure up, the methods they use to control happen to be enjoyed by the majority of the population.
Seed oils, hedonistic culture, blue light, EMFs, whatever the hell you want to name -- they do it because it makes their jobs easier, and because people ask them to do it.
You see what I'm getting at here?
It isn't some evil demonic force of death coming to obliderate our population. It's people making logical (not moral, and not ethical, but logical) decisions to make their jobs easier, and with that, these decisions become the societal norm. Often preferred.
So guess what?
None of this fucking concerns you. Why? Because it doesn't concern them.
I know you like to think that the elites are out to get you because you talk about eating raw liver and what happened to building 7, but you're a nobody. They're someone they DONT have to control, which means you're just one last thing to worry about.
Normal, everyday rules that you take as a given don't fucking apply to you. Nobody's forcing you to eat seed oils, after a few months you realize it's actually easier to eat steak and eggs than it is to eat poison. Nobody's forcing you to watch Netflix and listen to rap music, once you get into the circles you want to be in you'll realize they all listen to house and classical music anyways.
Speed limits don't affect you if you have a lawyer on payroll. Taxes are literally designed to work in favour of people who own assets and provide employment.
Every single thing that you come on here to complain about genuinely does not concern you.
Now, this isn't to say you can't be pissed off that they're happening. I love the human race. I get mad when I see what they're doing to my brothers and sisters too.
But the Matrix isn't out to get you, man. Nobody's coming to hurt you, and nobody's coming to save you. What a fucking beautiful thing.
It's the Wild West out here. Make some money outside of the system, keep your circle of lovers and fighters tight, invest in as much education as you can, build your body to handle stress, and do with this life as you please.
If 90% of systemic problems in our society today come from overconsumption, why wouldn't you just think to consume less?
You ALWAYS have the energy.
Your ability to stay awake / wake up with vitality is manipulatable. No matter how late at night, how fatigued you are midday, or how early it is in the morning, you can always psyop yourself into having the energy to carry on. Two key examples on polar sides of the day: it’s Christmas morning (oh boy) and you could care less how late you were up or how long of a week you had, you spring out of bed possessed with an unfathomable level of energy to get to the tree; (second scene) it’s your 3rd night straight working until 2am and just when you’re about to collapse…a buddy from out of town (you haven’t seen in years) tells you he just landed and is headed to your favorite bar (did I mention it was house night?).
In both scenarios you were instantly ready to roll. Excitement mythically injected into your veins. Raw euphoria defying Newtons laws. It didn’t matter what was going on, or how worn down you might have been, you were revitalized instantaneously.
It’s invaluable to find ways to trigger these pockets of energy stowed away “in the chamber.” For me, it’s a select set of edm songs (or a melancholy of mixes) that I can whip out anytime to unlock the next gear.
Take mental notes of when you experience something that triggers a dopamine bomb inside you (outside of stims). Keep adding it to the rolodex, so the next time you have the feeling you can’t carry on you can unleash it.
Press on.
Spend a Sunday at every Catholic Church in your surrounding area until you find a priest whose message you resonate with. (Most churches rotate priests, so you might need to go to different time slots per Church). Also, look for the crowd most heavily weighted towards young people compared to adults with children / old folks. Another thing I like to do is deduce my own interpretations of the readings ahead of the homily and see if the priest adds incremental insights / ties in real life applications. A potential downside of a life fully dedicated to the priesthood is a lack of real life experience; and therefore, the homily can lean more towards the literal interpretations of scripture. The world is not black and white and anyone who has engaged with it knows that. In my opinion, the most prolific clergy members are able to bridge the gap from life in 33 AD to the trials and tribulations experienced by the common man in 2023.
I’ve wanted to do this too. After years of atheism I now see truth in Christianity & Jesus’s teachings but I know 99% of churches would preach a far too literal interpretation of scripture & I couldn’t get behind it
It’s ironic how much we all know, yet never put into practice in our own lives. We know how to succeed in corporate; but hey, I’m not feeling it today. We know how to get in better shape; but wait, it’s the weekend. We know we want a new career path; but man, after a couple applications the drive is gone.
Maybe you could frame your issues as if you were consulting a friend? Possible, but that framework lacks context. The only person with all the context is yourself. Past journey, present situation, future ambitions, all within. So maybe you start coaching yourself? Yes, but what do you hold yourself accountable to?
Most of us have proven we can show up in the clutch when we HAVE to. Need to cram a full semester in a couple days? Fine. Score just above the average? Oh yeah. It’s that hard deadline driving most, yet overcoming the undefined time limit seems insurmountable in practice. We can’t seem to hold ourselves accountable to anything. Now what?
Time to start making it all up. Write down the goal and then lay out how you’re going to get there. Make it lofty. Don’t tell a soul. (Subliminal peer pressure isn’t going to get you out of bed, nor pin you to your word). Your word to yourself needs to trump all. If you have to frame it as a commitment to your future family, do that. Your ancestors? Sure. Maybe a commitment to God? Now we’re talking. Decipher what that is and start writing what you want to get done tomorrow, over the next month, a year from now. Pick any time horizon; you’ll keep iterating anyway. Documenting this process will force you to face what you’re doing wrong or not doing. Read it every day. Plan the night before. Whatever floats your boat. Just get it done and start treating yourself properly. In the third-person would you be proud of that action or lack there of? Constantly checking yourself to your word. “This is where most people stop. And that’s why I have to keep going today.” Day after day. Regularly consulting that imaginary friend. Constantly holding you to what you’re truly capable of.
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