A brief rant on #subspace.
It’s been one of those days and the looming hell my day job promises to give me over the next two days has me feeling some sort of way. So take a seat, grab a snack, and hang on. It’s gonna be a bumpy ride.
It's completely normal to miss someone from your past who doesn't fit with the current version of you. Everyone (hopefully) grows & evolves daily. The thing is, we can also grow apart. The one thing that #polyamory cannot solve is an unresolved past. Only you can do that.~ xoxo♥️
A hard truth of non-monogamy: you will meet more people than you have the time to love fully. Before diving in, don't forget your existing commitments. Ask yourself if you can give this newness your all, or if you should wait until there is more space in your life.
So I’ve had 3 #Doms in the span of… 15 ish years (significant breaks in between) and all three have ended badly. I’ve been left to pick up my own pieces and I’m now terrified to even consider it again. Especially when my lg has been hurt deeply.
Also… am I the problem? 💔
A lot of people who are new to polyamory find the reality of practising non-monogamy vastly different from what they imagined. This means that sometimes, even if someone says they’re okay with their partner doing something in theory, they get upset when it actually happens.
I just want to say this out loud:
You don’t get to be off duty. If we are committed despite all of the complications (and ESPECIALLY when you’ve taken on the Dom/Daddy role) you do not get to be off duty.
These are my personal needs not a general social/kink related statement.