When Chimamanda wrote about a man who loved his family dearly and also to the extremity of inflicting bestial pain on them because of 'his deluded faith and religious upbringing' in "Purple Hibiscus", She was warning the society of the harm wrong believing could do.
The urge to constantly victimize yourself in situations is a weak coping mechanism that perpetually keeps you away from winning. In summary, it is an unintended form of self-sabotage—a self-concocted trap that keeps you imprisoned in the very circumstances you should be evading.
People undermine the potency of RESILIENCE.
Resilience has helped me in so numerous ways. It's something I learned from my friend @Subomi_Cineaste
It’s the ability to “Go again” despite discouraging outcomes.
To the traumatized in 2024; I know you have been told “time” will heal you, that’s a facade (a paracetamol addiction to the headache you needed just to sleep.) So leave your grip on time and go back to the trauma, embrace it, and accept it has happened and now work at healing.
I have seen that life is full of four kinds of people; the dreamers, the lovers, the doers and the traumatized. And our experiences are all a shade of one or two or in some cases all of these experiences.
To the doers in 2024; I know you love to just do what is expected(societal or logical) but please learn to have sleepovers with the dreamers and learn how they dream. For because asides faith, dreams are the only miracles known to mankind.
We are the 7th largest oil producing nation. If we had things right, we would be throwing same money (if not the same figures but not too far off) Saudi is flinging at athletes
Effective Communication is solely about the way or how your recipient wants to hear what you are saying.
Understanding this in your work and personal relationship helps you build the best of relationship and results.
The essence of effective communication is not what you say in the way you speak, but rather the essence of effective communication is the humility to speak it in the way they hear it or want to hear it.